These are questions about you: your values, your beliefs and your life. Love, money, sex, integrity, generosity, pride and death are all here. To respond to these questions, you will need to examine and interpret your past, project yourself into hypothetical situations, face difficult dilemmas and make painful choices. There are no correct or incorrect answers to these questions, only honest or dishonest ones. Let yourself be swept up in these situations, so that you care about the choices you make. Don't simply answer yes or no - probe and explain your responses and pursue interesting tangents - give your imagination full rein.
These questions can be an avenue for individual growth, a tool for deepening relationships, or a quick way to get to know a new friend - these issues are particularly stimulating when explored with others.
For what in your life do you feel most grateful?
Do you have any specific long-term goals? How do you plan on reaching them? In what way will reaching your goals make your life more satisfying?
If you could choose the manner of your death, what would it be? Would you prefer to die a hero's death, as a martyr to a great cause, in a natural catastrophe, or die peacefully? Why is it so tempting to have death catch us in our sleep? How do your feelings about death influence the way you lead your life?
Have you ever hated anyone? If so, why and for how long?
What is your most treasured memory?
If God appeared to you in a series of extremely vivid dreams and told you to leave everything behind, travel alone to the Amazon and become a jungle Indian, what would you do? What if you were told to sacrifice your child?
What would constitute a perfect evening for you?
Which sex do you think has it easier in our culture? Have you ever wished you were of the opposite sex?
Do you think that the world will be a better or a worse place in 100 years from now?
If you were to die this evening, with no opportunity to communicate with anyone, what would you most regret not having told someone? Why haven't you told them yet?
Whom do you admire most? In what way does that person inspire you?
If you could wake up tomorrow having gained one ability or quality, what would it be?
Would you be willing to murder an innocent person if it would end hunger in the world? Would it torment you more to have the blood of a familiar person on your hands or to know you let millions of unknown people die?
Is there anything so important that you would sacrifice your very soul for it?
If you knew there would be a nuclear war in one week, what would you do?
What is the greatest accomplishment of your life? Is there anything that you hope to do that is even better?
What was your most enjoyable dream? Your worst nightmare?
How would you react if you were to learn that your mate had had a lover of the same sex before you knew each other? Have you ever been attracted to someone of the same sex? To someone in your family? If so, how did you deal with it?
Given the choice of anyone in the world, who would you want as your dinner guest? As your close friend? As your lover?
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