We think we know what love is: it's an intense affection and caring between two people. However, when we look to our partner to make us feel good, to fill our emotional need to feel loved, that is not the whole of love. We are looking to that person to make us feel what we have not yet learned to feel for ourselves.
An unfulfilled emotional need and corresponding attachment, is what love is for many people. If they are lucky, that emotional connection is combined with friendship and romance. But it is a form of love based on the unrealistic condition that the other person makes us feel good at all times. Conditional love is far from the full potential of love.
Physical love, for many, involves seduction, conquest, winning and possession. It is often accompanied by envy and jealousy. It tends to be selfish and egotistical, based on an attachment that causes suffering. However it need not be any of those things if it is partnered by spiritual love.
Spiritual love is completely different than a selfish need. It is a state of being, that is whole and fulfilled in itself. Everybody has this deep inside, it is the heart of their consciousness.
But so often our inner source of love is buried under a defensive armor, protecting against hurtful self judgment and the judgments of others. We need to let go of this armor... we cannot love others and at the same time not love ourselves. We are here on Earth to learn how to love ourselves and others - to accept completely, and without judgment. To literally, embody Love.
Love is the key. If we start to express the spring of love that is our true essence, our Truth, our spark of Divinity... and allow it to flow more... then all is revealed. Love becomes our guide and source of inner knowing.
the 'Answering the Big Questions' curriculum...
D1 ~ Understanding Life
D2 ~ Does God exist?
D3 ~ What is the purpose of life?
D4 ~ Know one's core values
D5 ~ What is love?
D6 ~ Understand death
D7 ~ Live consciously together