My Favorite Inspiring Quotes
Commentary by Peter Shepherd
Nothing more stressful and depressing than going to work when it just doesn't cut it anymore... if it doesn't align with your values, doesn't utilize your potential, or you are simply overrun repeating the same old formula. If it doesn't light your fire, look for something better.
Attachment to an outcome that just isn't happening, maybe can't possibly happen, is very stressful. That can lead you through the chain of emotional states, though fear, anger and grief, to apathy where you just give up. The alternative is acceptance, where you play and enjoy the game, so to speak, but are not painfully attached to the outcome.
It does not help to suppress feelings; it's not emotionally intelligent. For example, you may try to push back feelings of frustration or annoyance in order to appear more loving and accepting. A good intention for sure, but not genuine and therefore stressful for you. Instead, first you need to experience these emotions, to realize that you are creating them and be willing to let them go. It's mindfulness: spot the negative feeling, realize you are creating it, let it go and just be yourself. THEN you can be genuinely and effortlessly loving.
Same situation, one person is freaked out whilst the person alongside is enjoying themselves. Stress isn't what happens to us, it's our response to what happens, and our response is a choice. It's all about interpretation and that's something we can learn to do in a way that benefits us.
Stress comes from regretting what was, resisting what is and worrying about what might be. On the other hand, energetically working to create and achieve our vision brings us true happiness.
Here’s some further reading on this theme...
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