My Favorite Inspiring Quotes
Commentary by Peter Shepherd
Dance as though no one is watching you. Sing as though no one can hear you. Love as though you have never been hurt before. Live as though heaven is on earth.
This is the kind of love that is so romantic, and can stay with us through a lifetime of relationship. Goethe: "I am so glad that you are here... It helps me realize how beautiful my world is."
And Erica Jong: "Love is everything it's cracked up to be. That's why people are so cynical about it... It really is worth fighting for, being brave for, risking everything for. And the trouble is, if you don't risk anything, you risk even more."
And it works the other way round - someone said, "You don't love a woman because she is beautiful, but she is beautiful because you love her."
But we never own the loved one. As Leo F. Buscaglia says, "A loving relationship is one in which the loved one is free to be themselves - to laugh with me, but never at me; to cry with me, but never because of me; to love life, to love being loved. Such a relationship is based upon freedom and can never grow in a jealous heart."
Here’s some further reading on this theme...
One cannot possibly expect another human being to fill every one of our needs or respond to all of our desires. Yet, Western culture focuses on individuality, and when we stop to think about it, we realize that our contemporary lifestyle, although rich with social interaction, is essentially a one-on-one type of existence. This means we almost set ourselves up for times when we feel lonely. Here's a reality check: It takes time to build a relationship. Perfect synchronicity of belief systems, backgrounds, etc., is both unrealistic and unavailable. Continues...