Transformative quotes to help find our way during the transitions that inevitably occur in life.
Acquiring new skills
Whether learning an instrument, singing, arts and crafts, DIY, professional skills... these can be life-changing and fulfilling.
“The more you struggle and even fail, while you're trying to master new information, the better you're likely to recall and apply that information later.” —Manu Kapur
Breaking habit or addiction
Getting free of a habit or addiction that is harming you is clearly a big step forward.
“The secret to breaking any bad habit is to love something greater than the habit.” —Bryant McGill
Coping with a major loss
We all lose loved ones at least several times in our lives, and we inevitably suffer losses in career and relationships. Fortunately there are ways to make this kind of transition easier on ourselves.
“Those we love don't go away, they walk beside us everyday.” —anon
Diagnosis and illness recovery
From diagnosis to illness and returning back to health can happen to all of us, and also to our child, parent or spouse. And it may be a life-changing chronic illness or even a terminal illness. And we all face death eventually. But approached the right way, each can become a transformative part of your life.... Recovery is the way forward to start living your life again and to be the person you are called to be.
“Even the darkest night will end and the sun will rise.” —Victor Hugo
Getting over guilt
Guilt can fester for years or we can pass through and learn from the experience.
“Mistakes are part of life, everyone makes them, everyone regrets them. But, some learn from them and some end up making them again. It's up to you to decide if you'll use your mistakes to your advantage.” —Meredith Sapp
We can act to develop our self, to learn and practice new and more constructive ways of being.
“Talk to yourself like you would to someone you love.” —anon
Implementing new insight
It's one thing to have an insight, a new understanding - it's quite another to learn to apply it continuously in your life, a new positive habit. That takes motivation and persistence.
“Making a big life change is pretty scary. But know what's even scarier? Regret.” —anon
Learning to forgive
This can be a journey in itself, that may require time to develop understanding, empathy and compassion - to find oneself, in other words.
“Forgiveness does not change the past, but it does enlarge the future.” —Paul Boese
Letting go of anger
Anger and its accompanying frustration only serve to harm ourselves. Realizing this, though, is a process.
“Anger is never without a reason, but seldom a good one.” —Benjamin Franklin
Fears need to be faced and accepted, not suppressed, then we can decide if it makes more sense to let them go.
“To live a creative life, we must lose our fear of being wrong.” —Joseph Chilton Pearce
Our spiritual path is our life, really, in which we can gradually get to know ourselves better, to be more aware of how we react, to access our inner knowing more and more.
“Be transformed from the inside out by the renewal of your mind.” —Apostle Paul
Education need not stop when we leave school; indeed, we do best to retain an open mind and learn throughout our lives, to take responsibility and self-direct this process. See our Self-Directed Education resources.
“Formal education will make you a living. Self education will make you a fortune.” —Jim Rohn
Traumatic accident recovery
Accidents happen, c'est la vie, and the recovery process can be life-transforming.
“The only lasting trauma is the one we suffer without positive change.” —Leo Buscaglia
Becoming a parent or carer
One of those days always to remember, to bring a new person into the world or to take responsibility for a person, it's nevertheless not an overnight transition. There's much to learn.
“The heart is to the body as the family is to the soul.” —Rick Beneteau
This might include being bullied, being falsely accused, being discriminated against, being constantly criticised (at home, work or school, or media). Whichever way, a path forward needs to be found.
“Never be bullied into silence. Never allow yourself to be made a victim. Accept no one's definition of yourself. Define yourself.” —Robert Fros
Child leaving home
Another big transition, to adapt to a much loved family member no longer being there.
“We never really leave home, we carry it with us on every road and on every journey we take.” —anon
Developing social skills
There are many social skills that make a huge difference to the quality of our relationships, how we get on and how happy we are in our lives. Again, this is ongoing, if we make the effort.
“When we focus on others, our world expands.” —Daniel Goleman
We set boundaries in a relationship: what is our responsibility and what is acceptable to us, and those we live and work with do likewise. These boundaries need to be clear, mutually beneficial and respected.
“I allow myself to set healthy boundaries. To say no to what does not align with my values, to say yes to what does. Boundaries assist me to remain healthy, honest and live a life that is true to me.” —Lee Horbachewski
The transition from being single to a new way of life revolving around one partner, takes some getting used to.
“Engagement marks the end of a whirlwind romance and the beginning of an eternal love story...” —anon
Being devotedly looked after to now looking after yourself - what a transition to adapt to!
“Give the ones you love wings to fly, roots to come back, and reasons to stay.” —Dalai Lama
This if course is a big transformation of both your own and your partner's life, one that when it succeeds will make you more than twice the person.
“A happy marriage is three things: memories of togetherness, forgiveness of mistakes, and a promise to never give up on each other.” —Surabhi Surendra
A new life in your own body - what an amazing thing and what a transition!
“Not every day of pregnancy is easy, but every day brings me closer to you, little one.” —anon
Relocation and moving home
Seems straightforward enough and exciting but many things can go wrong and lots to adjust to at the new location.
“Cleaning up the past, packing up the present, and preparing for a much better future!” —anon
It can take time to move a relationship from blunt disagreement or even hatred, to some helpful understanding and getting along.
“Peace cannot be kept by force; it can only be achieved by understanding.” —Einstein
Separation and divorce
It may be necessary but it's a big change in your life, to get used to live on your own again.
“A tragedy is not divorce, it's staying in an unhappy marriage, teaching your children the wrong things about love.” —anon
Starting a romance
Falling in love is magic, but it isn't usually an instant process, there are stages of getting closer and closer in understanding and empathy, lessons to learn about each other, ups and downs. But hopefully to arrive.
“An authentic person ends a relationship before starting or searching for another one.” —anon
Achieving a goal
Having a target to reach motivates us to action, and an inspiring goal even more, but there are usually many steps along the way.
“A crystal clear vision inspires and energizes the path of least resistance to your goal.” —anon
Applying for and starting a new job
A necessary step forward that usually contains a chain of events and many changes to adapt to.
“Change can be scary, but you know what's scarier? Allowing fear to stop you from growing, evolving and progressing.” —Mandy Hal
College or university
Again, a complete change of lifestyle with many new people to meet and work with.
“All dreams can come true - if we have the courage to pursue them.” —Walt Disney
Establishing life purpose
Many times - even usually - a person lives their life without a clear purpose to their existence. So much better if you really know who you are in your heart, and what you want to achieve, and this opens the door to true fulfillment.
“If you can't figure out your purpose, figure out your passion. For your passion will lead you right into your purpose.” —Bishop T. D. Jakes
Financial crisis or change
May be gaining or losing income: either way a new strategy going forward is required.
“We cannot solve problems by using the same kind of thinking we used when we created them.” —Einstein
Leading a team
Effective leadership demands a wide range of skills, maturity, and achievement already demonstrated to acquire respect from the people being led. Becoming a leader is potentially a huge transition in which your potential can be fully realized.
“If your actions inspire others to do more, to learn more, to dream more or to become more, you are a leader.” —John Quincy Adams
Learning new skills at work
New skills and accompanying know-how make promotion possible, or a whole new area of responsibility, and therefore a new lease of life.
“The expert in anything was once a beginner.” —anon
Losing a job
It may or may not be your fault but big changes follow. Nevertheless, it presents the opportunity for a new beginning.
“There will be many chapters in your life. Don't get lost in the one you are in now.” —anon
The boss may be great - or a pain - but still you'll need to get on with them.
“Coming together is a beginning. Keeping together is progress. Working together is success.” —Henry Ford
New creative project
This could be at work or home, but it's a new adventure, requiring learning of new skills and free expression of your imagination, to unearth your unique insights and vision.
“When you remember similarities, notice relationships, imagine possibilities and are willing to experiment - then one thing leads to another.” —anon
Promotion at work
Well, it's what you worked for, but now new responsibilities are on your plate, new things to learn, new chances to express yourself, to contribute.
“You were hired because you met expectations. You will be promoted if you exceed them.” —Saji Ijiyemi
This is of course a whole new phase of your life. It can mean you finally have the chance to do things that you always wanted, especially if you've been working for years at a job far removed from your true talents and life purpose.
“You are never too old to set a new goal or dream a new dream.” —C.S.Lewis
Starting a business
The opportunity to really be creative and make your mark on the world, as well as to express your full potential.
“Never start a business to make money. Start a business to make a difference.” —Marie Forleo
The business to customer relationship changes as new technologies arise or new social habits form. A business has to recognize these changes and adapt - or get left behind. This may affect your business or your situation as a customer.
“The purpose of a business is to create a customer who creates customers.” —Shiv Singh
Your work may become no longer viable; your plans may become financially impossible; you may have to endure hardship - or on the contrary, unexpected opportunities and prosperity may become available.
“People were created to be loved. Things were created to be used. The reason the world is in chaos is because things are being loved and people are being used.” —anon
If you care about fashion, a whole new wardrobe may be in order. Your eyes may be opened to new music, new holiday locations, new film directors, new anything that suddenly becomes publicized.
“Fashion changes, style endures.” —Coco Chanel
Freedom and rights
People die to preserve the freedom and rights of their fellows. In a way, nothing is more important than our essential freedom and human rights. To preserve our freedoms make take considerable time and effort but it will be worthwhile.
“Privacy is the foundation of all other rights. Arguing that you don't care about privacy because you have nothing to hide is like arguing that you don't care about free speech because you have nothing to say.” —anon
Left, right or center - whatever our own views, a new political scenario can arrive at any time and we have to adapt and live with it, albeit making our views to the contrary heard if necessary, and working with others toward a better outcome.
“I'm no longer accepting the things I cannot change... I'm changing the things I cannot accept.” —Angela Davis
How people treat others, the values they live by, the levels of happiness, caring, kindness that are demonstrated - these and many other factors determine whether our world is one we want to live in. To make a better world we each have to influence our immediate environment for the better, and that starts within each of us... a change of consciousness from the inside-out.
“Change begins with you... If you change how you think then you will change how you feel and what actions you take. And so the world around you will change!” —Mahatma Gandhi
“Personal development is a journey of self-discovery, transitioning from doubt to certainty, from stress to peace, and from scarcity to abundance.” —Wallace Huey
Personal development is the way forward...
If your life is unchanging, you have probably adjusted to a situation where you can meet the challenges of life... you can get by. You're safe, sort of. But when you want to move outside these boundaries in order to make the most of your potential and to make your dreams come true, your life challenges then tend to meet you with a bump. Or this might happen if you are forced to step outside your ‘safe space’ through a change in circumstances. Then you need to take responsibility, to advance your personal development.
“Unless you try to do something beyond what you have already mastered, you will never grow.”~ Ralph Waldo Emerson
Life is always changing, growing and evolving. This means everyone experiences transitions in their life. And in modern life, change and growth are happening more quickly, and are often forced upon us, so that each of us will face many transitions in the course of a lifetime.
Change is the fundamental nature of Life. If you don’t adapt to change, or if you don't instigate necessary or desired change, you may be left in a confused and unfulfilled state. Then there is a danger that you will become a person who is fearful, cynical and resigned to things as they are.
Is this something that you really want? If it this happened could you live with yourself? Permanently?
It's far better to take the initiative, to become master of the transitions in your life.
“Change is inevitable. Growth is optional.”~ John Maxwell
PODCAST by Peter Shepherd ~ Life Transitions
In modern life, change and growth are happening more quickly, and are often forced upon us, so that each of us will face many transitions in the course of a lifetime. We may try to avoid them but to achieve our full potential, we need to take them on, acquiring the necessary life skills to succeed.