Inspiring Quotes of the Week...
Commentary by Peter Shepherd
If I die tonight in my sleep: let me have hugged and told my children that I love them, and let me have told my partner how much s/he is loved and appreciated.
When we finally have children of our own, we get to experience the problems involved in parenting, and how the child cannot perceive the responsibilities we have from our own point of view. What may seem to the child to be unfair or even cruel, we recognize to be in the child's best interest. I absolutely hated to go to school, I'd much rather have stayed at home, but whatever the weaknesses of the education I received, it was far better than none and now I am grateful that my parents insisted. Of course; but I didn't see it that way then.
It's our loved ones that matter most in the world, so it's such a shame if we focus exclusively on work and neglect our home, especially if that is done to avoid taking responsibility for relationship problems within the family.
The child is an independent being, not only a genetic progeny. If the newly incarnated soul is recognized as such and supported by love, it will be more able to mindfully accomplish the purposes for which it joined the family.
Children expect us to be what we say to them, to walk the talk. Eknath Easwaran said, "Those who have children can become masters of patience, endurance and steadfastness, because children will test you at every turn. The way to make our children patient and loving is to be that way ourselves, to set a good example."
Here’s some further reading on this theme...
These days, we're bombarded with mixed messages about how to parent "the right way." It's easy to buy into advice from the media, relatives, and other parents and start to worry that we're doing something wrong. One of the most important ways to clear through all the clutter of advice, guilt and comparisons to others is to understand what you are and aren't responsible for when it comes to raising your child. Continues