My Favorite Inspiring Quotes
Life Transition: Making a New Habit
Commentary by Peter Shepherd
Change your habits and anything is possible. To change a habit that is holding you back, make a conscious decision to create a new habit. Then practice the new desired behavior repeatedly over long enough a period that it becomes an empowering new habit. Then move on to the next idea. And that's personal development.
So it's a matter of mindfulness, keeping a part of you aware, so you can act consciously and not on automatic pilot. Changing yourself from the inside out. For example, like Brian Tracy says, "Confidence is a habit that can be developed by acting as if you already had the confidence you desire to have." A conscious change of attitude, an experiment that if it works out, you can make a new habitual way of being, part of you.
Mindfulness isn't about being self-conscious. Instead, you practice implementing a principle into your life, such as being aware when behavior becomes reactive. Like a deliberately programmed habit that then becomes unconscious. So then alarm bells ring when you're being carried along - feeling, thinking and acting reactively - and immediately you get back to being yourself. But that self is then in the moment, in the flow, enjoying life and not self-conscious.
When we choose to stop instinctively reacting to uncomfortable situations, we realize that we have control over our connection with the world; we are not victims of circumstance.
Attitude is everything and a change of mind away. But that jump for many is a wide chasm. It takes courage to drop the safe solutions of the past and try new ways, to break conformity and the expectations of others - and it takes persistence to gradually install new habits and ways of being. Abraham Hicks said, "Those old habits don't have to be erased, they just become replaced by a new habit that is more in vibrational harmony with who you are and what you want."
Here’s some further reading on this theme...
You don’t need to wish for a seminal moment (like a visit from your fairy godmother) to turn your life around. Nor do you need to wait for a life-changing disaster when you will have no choice but to turn your life around. What you do need (whether you’re female or male), is to give birth to a new habit. Once you've ingrained that habit as a daily discipline, it will perpetuate itself by creating even more new habits. Continues...