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Metaphors that wreck lives!

  Metaphor underlies many of our communications. We compare something we wish to express with something we can see or experience. For example, a very common metaphor is that of war. Boardroom battles, Battle of the Sexes, Fighting for Your Rights, Giving her a Blasting, Destroying the Opposition, This is a Minefield - you get the idea! If the idea of war and battle underlies our interactions, what do you think will happen? What will happen to your body, its stress level? What will happen to your communications? Does this metaphor have the seeds of destruction for everyone concerned? After all, in a real war, no one really wins. Using the language of war can make things sound exciting, but do we pay too high a price for our pleasure? Note the personal casualties of business and you get your answer!

Common metaphors are those of:

  • Business
    • Achievement
  • Lottery
    • Get the Prize!
  • Sport
    • A remarkable feat!

The first and the last are probably better than the image of war. Another image in Personal Development. One develops

  • Skills and abilities,
  • Person Well-Being
  • Competencies
  • Communication excellence

We do not obtain Victory, but a Win-Win Solution.

We do not overcome the opposition, we excel.

The metaphors we use influence us in a hidden way, and sometimes make our lives difficult because the metaphor is stressful, causes conflict, and obscures solutions.

ΠWhat metaphors do you use:
  • In your personal life
  • At work?
  • When relaxing
  • With your family?
  • Etc?
 Does the metaphor cause problems, or presume an undesirable state? For example, war presumes conflict and violent solutions.
Ž Is there a better metaphor?
 If so, begin to translate from the language of the old metaphor into the new and determine whether this is likely to make better situations.
 If so, install the new metaphor.
You may choose, and now you know what the metaphor is you can choose, to use the old metaphor in your life, but you have the option of using new ones in your private thinking.
You might choose to use neutral language if you cannot think of an appropriate new metaphor.

Are you aware of how easy it is to change when you know how to?

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