Is someone reading your mind?
Can you read minds? Can others read your mind? Have you heard or used expressions like these?
There can be good reasons for these statements, but at face value they appear to indicate mind reading. And between you and I, I can't read minds, and I don't think that people who make these statements can either. In psychology, they are sometimes called projection. That is, we have a thought in our own minds, and think it belongs to someone else. We project our thought on this other person and blame them for thinking it! Sounds like good fun to me, but how do we deal with it?
The question, 'How, for example, do you know that?' is specific to mind reading, but is very useful on many other occasions.
Don't forget all the other questions we have learned so far. For example:
There is a little problem with 'How do you know that?', however. Strictly, if someone knows something, then it is true. So our question is assuming what the person says is true. Very often, a person's mind reading is false. As I said, it is a small problem because people usually take 'know' to be 'belief.' But consider:
And consider the last questions from the first set of examples:
When you catch yourself mind reading, or others claim to read your mind or make a statement without giving the reasons or evidence for it, you can use the question, 'How, specifically, do you know that?' On other occasions you might prefer to use variations of:
Remember, you will have attained one of the goals of this mini series when you automatically think of the appropriate question when you catch yourself or others violating the Being Specific Model. If you do this, and use it regularly, then you will discover that:
You will learn that unless you learn and apply what you have learned, it will not have a great effect in your life.
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