Introduction     Sitemap
Trans4mind Home Page

I'm oscillating between visualizing my goals and focusing on irrelevant details with nothing in between - help me out of this rut.

heart to heart
I'm confused. It seems every time I make a decision to move forward and take the practical steps necessary to achieve my goals (I have three major goals and practice visualization extensively), I get distracted by 'irrelevant details' and waste time and energy focusing on things that don't really matter or influence the bigger picture. ie...working towards attaining my goals. I'm totally stuck.

In other words, I go from overwhelmed to under-whelmed, in a cycle, and I don't know how to break it. I set priorities, but one of the aforementioned 'insignificant details' catches my attention, and before I know it, the cycle has started again. It's frustrating.

Wallace's reply
Wallace What you describe is attributable to a loss of center. You are operating at the two extremes of accomplishment with no presence in the middle where the action is. When we carry an imbalance like this it is usually due to some painful memories from our childhood. When you were young did a parent, sibling, other relative or teacher ever persistently scold or criticize you and make you feel worthless whenever you sought to carry out a task? If so and you never grieved for that incident at the time, you will still be carrying that grief and pain. This psychological pain will remain inside causing you to feel stress when facing a challenge. Does this sound familiar?

If so you need to grieve for the pain you suffered in childhood. As well as grieving and letting go of your pain and the distressing memories present in your subconscious (which you may no longer be aware of), you need to choose one of your three goals and focus on that alone.

Practice giving less energy to visualization techniques around that goal and less energy to the irrelevant details and use the energy released to focus more on practical steps you can take to move toward your goal. If a step appears to large or difficult, break the task down into a series of smaller steps and then focus all your energy on achieving the first one (no matter how small) and then reward yourself for your achievement. If doing this brings up stress and pain you need to release it as it arises. This process will act as a cleansing and retraining that will gradually bring you back to center.

As you work with this process there will come a time when the level of psychological pain will subside. At this point I suggest you take up meditation. A regular daily meditation practice at that point will accelerate your return to center and improve your powers of step by step focus.

By releasing your pain, reducing old habit patterns and focusing this spare energy on the simplest of simple steps, you will gradually and inexorably move toward your first goal. When you have achieved that goal the other two will follow. At that point you will have successfully reprogrammed yourself to return to center. Your frustration will have gone and you will feel a depth of peace and contentment greater than you have ever known.

Further Help and Resources
If you wish to explore releasing your psychological pain and learning to practice meditation I recommend the guidelines given in my book Unfold Your Wings and Watch Life Take.

Read more questions on this topic

Go to

Support your personal development with these popular and effective hypnosis downloads...

Hypnosis Downloads
What can we help you with?
Search now on an issue that concerns you...

You will love the way you feel after using one of these hypnosis audio downloads. You can listen on your computer or CD, or use the app on your phone or tablet. Each audio has been carefully crafted by professional hypnotherapist educators with a proven track record and since 2003, over 600,000 have been downloaded.

Find exactly what you need:
View all 1000+ Hypnosis Downloads here...

HomeSitemapEmail Webmaster