The jealousy I feel about the female friend of my boyfriend is out of control

Please learn to understand this following rule of life: "We teach others how to treat us!" Yes - that's right! We teach them what they can - or can't - get away with. Your boyfriend is showing no respect for you - but it seems to me that you have to earn it first. Personally, just from the small amount of information I have here, I feel that you deserve much better treatment from a partner; but you must earn that too!

"Every man is valued in this world as he shows by his conduct that he wishes to be valued." ~Jean De La Bruyere

What this is really saying is that we show the world just how we want to be treated by our behavior and interactions with others. We teach others how to treat us!

Showing respect - will usually earn respect. Not allowing unacceptable behaviour to be dumped upon us - will earn acceptable behaviour towards us. Caring about others - doing good for others - will usually earn the good and caring of others directed toward us.

Does your behaviour show the world that you are valuable? Do you earn respect - by setting good standards with others? Do you think that you deserve to be valued by others - because if you don't - guess what - you won't!

Show others how to treat you by working on yourself ... not them, you can't change them, you can only change the dynamic that exists between you both. That's all you can change - by working on you!

This answer of mine may not be what you wanted to see - but I am hopefull that it really does help you because it is one of those 'hard lessons' that we sometimes need to hear or see. I send this to you with love and respect; and if you would liek some Personal Life Coaching through this (so you can learn to never repeat this again) please let me know.

Our lessons in life are often challenging; and those same tough ones are often our most important to learn.

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