How can I make new friends when people all seem established in their friendships and don't seem to want to connect?
I really want to be the bubbly fun person I know is inside but it's like my self esteem has taken such a knock and I feel dull and it is so hard to find people with whom I feel I can connect. How can I make meaningful friendships in a place where people all seem established in their friendships and who don't seem to want to connect in a more meaningful way?
As you think about this situation of yours, please remember this critical principle of life: To thine own self be true! Also... at any time during this journey have you felt that you've connected with your real purpose in life - or are you doing all of these things for an underlying reason? In other words... what is your real passion in life? What really rattles your inner self to the point of absolute joy and enthusiasm?
Your not-so-good feelings are possibly a result of not being true to whatever that purpose or passion is. I will explain what depression or long term sadness is usually based in... One of the foundations of feeling horrible is often pure guilt. We can feel guilty that we are NOT doing what we know that we should be doing; or we can feel guilty that we are NOT where we know that we should be; or we can feel absolutely terrible if we are NOT with the person that we know we should be with! We can also simply feel guilty for something that we have done which was unlike love or good integrity.
Does any of this resonate with you? Please let me know, as I am intuiting some of this, and some of it is just out of experience. If you feel more comfortable with yourself, and enthusiastic about what you are doing, you will also feel closer to those around you and it will just naturally follow that you make associations, particularly if they share your interests and passions as well.