My relationship is on/off and we haven't been loyal. Should we keep trying to work this out or do we need to let go and move on?
After that whole ordeal, we tried to get back together but broke up because it didn't feel right and I felt that we were not holding the highest intention. Once we broke up a second time, I made unloyal decisions and so did she once again. It has been about two months now and we are still in contact with each other, but I feel that I can't be with her because of the decisions we made while we were not together. I am wondering if we should keep trying to work this out or do we need to let go and move on?
You need to look at your options really: What is involved in trying to heal the situation? and what are you both trying to heal which is a lesson from the past perhaps? And does it really 'serve' you both to go down that track?
On the other hand, are you both 'hanging on' to old emotional scars which you both (or even one of you) need to heal? Is there a pattern here for either of you? Something which is being repeated perhaps, and needs to be dealt with, or it will raise its ugly head again with someone else .... next time?
I strongly believe that if you ask the questions of yourselves, and divine source, then you will both be capable of seeing the truth in your situation. Heal and grow ... or receive a wake up call and let go?
The most important part of this huge question is this, "If I am true to my inner self, can I really forgive and move on, and choose to discover what true unconditional love really is? And then do I have the courage to risk further pain by persevering and giving it a go?"
One way to create success in our lives is to let go of old stuff ... and move on. May the following piece of wisdom (by an unknown writer) help you with that process...
To "let go" is not to cut myself off. It's the realization that I can't control another.
To "let go" is to admit powerlessness, which means the outcome is not in my hands.
To "let go" is not to try to change or blame another. It's to make the most of myself.
To "let go" is not to care for, but to care about.
To "let go" is not to fix, but to be supportive.
To "let go" is not to judge, but to allow another to be a human being.
To "let go" is not to be in the middle, arranging all the outcomes, but to allow others to affect their own destinies.
To "let go" is not to deny, but to accept.
To "let go" is not to nag, scold, or argue, but instead to search out my own shortcomings and correct them.
To "let go" is not to adjust everything to my desires, but to take each day as it comes and cherish myself in it.
To "let go" is not to regret the past, but to grow and live for the future.
To "let go" is to fear less and to love more.