Once upon a time, not so long ago, I was so 'together' (great career; financially stable; independent & strong; had great friends & numerous acquaintances; I was bubbly and joyful...). Where is that person? I'm trying so very hard to find her... and to learn the lessons in all of this. And although I am feeling a bit better and am beginning to emerge from the 'fog'... and despite the 'calling' and 'reaching out' from the Universe / "Great Spirit" (I acknowledge the numerous messages)... I find myself unable (out of fear?) to take any real action.
Oftentimes, I've felt that I should seek help in getting out of my "fog" and I was told that it is impossible for one to analyze oneself in order to work through a situation (of "stuck-ness") like mine. Yet for me, traditional therapy completely misses the boat. And I do feel capable (& stable enough) to work through this on my own if I had the right tools. I truly feel that I am finally on the verge of a major "break-through" and any advice you can provide will certainly be very much appreciated.
You falsely assumed that by having these external elements to your life in good order you were "strong and independent". A person who is truly strong and independent is like this no matter what happens to the externals of her life, because her strength and independence comes from her identification with, and attachment to, God Within. The external circumstances of such a person's life can change - even dramatically - and they will by unaffected psychologically.
The truth is that you were never strong and independent in the true sense. However the good news is that you are in an ideal position to develop this inner power. If you give yourself time to grieve and let go of all these external identifications and attachments your personal power will increase, gradually at first, because your grief and sadness will burn those external attachments that were your weakness, and you will find a new relationship with the inner God.
If you want help with this I strongly recommend my book Unfold Your Wings and Watch Life Take Off. I wrote it some years after emerging from an emotional coma similar to the one you describe. It has within its pages many of the tools you seek. Read more questions on this topic