I have low self esteem and find it hard to know when I really love someone – how can I tell?
Seven years later, here I am still married with a 2-year-old son and severely depressed because I want to leave him. I recently found a book titled co-dependent no more and was amazed to see so many similarities. I guess my question is: How do you know when you really love someone?
I've had low self-esteem as long as I can remember, but now I'm starting to feel better about myself and about my life and I have started to set some goals and have actually accomplished some of them. However, I still wake up at night with this over whelming feeling of wanting to leave my husband. I'm not attracted to him AT ALL and never have been and I can no longer fake it. I think because I've been co-dependant for so long I'm not sure if I trust my feelings.
You are not sure of your intuitive feelings because you are distant and unrelated to your higher Self. You can be confident of your inner guidance once that relationship is secure. I cannot comment on your suitability or otherwise of your marriage, however if you want to connect more securely with your own Heart and learn to trust the guidance that comes from there, then I recommend my book Unfold Your Wings and Watch Life Take Off. Reading it will help you become clear about your inner guidance and what it is saying to you about your current situation. Then, as you are reading it, if you need further life coaching by email, it is available free of charge from my own website.