Coach Yourself to Success
Answers to Questions submitted to the Heart to Heart Coaches
and published in the Cultivate Life! magazine
and published in the Cultivate Life! magazine
A. HEALING YOURSELF:
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- How can I deal with being hurt constantly by my girlfriend? How do I get out of this emotional roller coaster ride?
- I feel like someone or something inside me wants to cause me pain or hurt me.
- How do I cross over emotionally from girlhood to womanhood?
- How can I heal the grief and pain of the past so that I do not need to take alcohol anymore?
- What can I do about my partner, who I cannot afford to keep and who does not work or contribute?
- How can I heal my past to have a better present and future?
- How do I start over when I have nothing?
- I feel ashamed of, and immobilized by, clutter - what can I do?
- I am healing and growing quite rapidly, but my behavior surprises me and I feel lost!
- I have a belief that I need to keep talking about myself and now I scare people - help me.
- I would like to settle down and meet someone nice, but my heart has been broken and I lack confidence in relationships with men – can you help me?
- After suffering eating disorders and severe depression I now feel unmotivated and disconnected from people who love me - what's wrong with me?
- Twelve years ago I was dumped by a woman and I still dream of her – how do I let go?
- I have everything one could ask for so why do I feel something is missing in my life?
- What is the defining factor that empowers us to experience the state of Being Fully Awake?
- I'm unemployed, with no proper education and I'm unconventional. How can someone like me earn a living?
- Things just feel like they are a total mess - how can I move forward in my life?
- I have been depressed and confused for many years and need guidance to move forward with clarity and confidence.
- How can I get rid of the negative energy around me and use my energy for good?
- I am tired of not knowing what to do with my life, to get really motivated
- How do I heal after choosing abortion?
- My need to be admired is preventing me from participating in groups - how can I get rid of this need to be admired?
- I suffer from anorexia and bulimia. I feel hopeless, am distancing myself from people and sometimes feel like I can't go on - help me
- How can I find the healing path and follow it one day at a time?
- I have tried all kinds of self-help for my fear and anxiety and it hasn't worked - help me.
- I've been successfully working on my own healing for 20 years, now I'm in limbo - help me
- How can I let people come to me rather than me always going to them?
- Healing the wounds of my past feels like a bottomles pit; can you help me to forgive myself?
- Will forgiveness and releasing past hurts heal my physical problems?
- I am full of rage toward my dead mother, who failed to protect me from sexual abuse - how can I forgive her?
- I keep telling myself I am flawed. How can I forgive myself?
- How can I learn to trust and heal my fear of intimacy with my husband? I think I need to forgive my parents for my difficult upbringing.
- My boyfriend has broken up with me - I've asked my Higher Self what to do but I get nowhere.
- Am I right to sit by the phone wishing my ex-boyfriend will ring?
- I discovered my girlfriend was seeing a married man - how can I find it in my heart to let her come back?
- I want to leave my husband for my soul mate, but my children will never talk to me again if I do.
- He's irresponsible and unfaithful and I am at the end of my rope - what do I do?
- After my husband's affair, what are the consequences of restarting my marriage and of the alternative, going forward alone?
- Our relationship has become difficult because we are both trying to heal ourselves. Do I stay or go?
- My husband used to beat me up and he still insults me – how do I get out of this situation?
- Should I leave my family for a man who loves me?
- I would do anything to have my ex-partner back in my life, even though she demands complete separation.
- At what point does one realize that it is time to end a relationship?
- Did I sign a lifetime imprisonment contract on the date I legally married?
- How to break free of a no-good leach and live my own life?
- How can I get this girl to give it one more try and have the opportunity to prove that we can be good together again?
- What can I do to get my husband back? He told me he just thinks of me as a friend but is no longer passionate about me.
Overcoming anger and frustration
- Huntington's Disease and Anger
- I always want more money and I'm frustrated, angry and unhappy all the time.
- I have great hopes and anticipation but it only ends in frustration - is it better to be in the now?
- After stopping smoking I no longer know how to deal with my anger - what can I do?
- My husband was abusive toward me and now I am full of anger, resentment and hate - how can I get rid of these feelings?
- I am suffering from an inferiority complex since childhood days. How can I find a life partner who truly loves me?
- I am soft, polite and not so fashionable. What should I do to boost my confidence?
- How do I stop being shy and improve my connection with people?
- How can I learn new things and take care of myself when I don't like who I am?
- Because of my bullying and controlling mother, I have little confidence and am afraid of relationships.
- I feel like a loser and have lost my self esteem and respect
- How can I feel confident and communicate successfully?
- I have poor self esteem, my feelings of love for my husband are fading and I am frightened he will leave me - help
- How can I live up to my parents' expectations?
- I have low self esteem and find it hard to know when I really love someone - how can I tell?
Overcoming fear, anxiety and depression
- I am always tired and lethargic. I am just frustrated with my life and I just wish I wasn't born.
- How do I stop worrying, stop caring what others think and become friendly but positive and assertive?
- I am completely lost, have no direction, and feel consumed with sadness on all levels. I want so much to be full of life again.
- I feel insecure and incomplete, lacking confidence and afraid
- My life is being ruined by my fears and phobias - how can I deal with them?
- How can I ever be free from fear and worry?
- How can I remove doubt and fear so that I can start a new life?
- I desire to be wealthy but fear lack - how do I get rid of this fear?
- How can I overcome extreme doubts and feeling inadequate and move forward in my endeavors?
- How can I shift the fear of other people's negative judgments when at work?
- My life is being stunted by fear of heights and enclosed spaces and fear of hot and cold weather - how can I go beyond these fears?
- Although I love the course I feel overwhelmed by my studies - I may be still afraid of my ex-husband's judgments. How can I get focused on my studies?
- I'm struggling to get a job and the bills are coming in - help keep me from worrying and getting stressed.
- Can you advise me on going beyond my bulimia?
- I abuse alcohol - not every day, but when socially involved – advice please.
- I'm a couch potato addicted to self-help - help me out of this rut
- I am lost in the world of drug addiction – can you give me words of encouragement and healing?
Understanding your sexual feelings and inclinations
- I feel compelled to look at pornography on the Internet - help me, I am losing my focus.
- I have been sexually molested and I think I may be homosexual. I fear that I may be left alone without companionship - Can you help me?
- It feels like our marriage is breaking up and I am now finding my wife physically unattractive - is there something wrong with me?
- I am all caught up in my mind, my emotions and my sexual feelings - How can I free myself from these and increase my will power for spiritual life?
- My husband is into porn and I feel cheated - please help.
Coping with grief and learning from a major loss in your life
- I greatly miss the relationship I had with my father and cannot accept his death and feel empty within.
- I want to know what it's like for my mother in the afterlife?
- How do I make peace with my past experience and start to move forward again in my life?
- How can I learn to accept that the death of our only child was God's will?
- Dealing with Multiple Losses
- Would a grief recovery resource be applicable to someone who has PTSD?
- I am constantly haunted by the death of my beloved wife - how can I move forward?
- How can I go beyond feelings of anger, grief and loss from my childhood?
- After a series of losses I feel very drained and feel as if I have lost the light - please help me.
- After losing my marriage, 6 children and my unborn child everyone abandoned me. Now I feel disconnected from life and from people - please help.
- After being defeated by powerful vested interests in a cause that was just, I am now depressed and directionless - help me recover.
- I have an acquired disability, have no purpose in life and poor relationships with family and friends - how can I be more positive and think better thoughts?
- What can I do about my feelings of loss, sadness and grief?
- Help me to recover from a life that has "crashed and burned"
- How can I adjust to a disabling condition?
- How can I come to terms with my acquired disability and move on?
- After a lot of misfortune, how can I get a foothold to start again?
- How do I remain open and free of the build up of sludge that life can sometimes throw at me?
