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- Kindness is based in an action. It arises from our internal state (i.e., thoughts, emotions, feelings, "thoughtfulness"), but kindness is usually not identified as such until we express that internal state, with "an act of kindness."
- Kindness is generally associated with small, non-essential gifts. For example, if we give a lollipop to a child, that is "kindness"; in contrast, if we give $100 to a starving man, that might be called "charity."
- Kindness does not require reciprocity; i.e., we do not expect anything in return (although we appreciate a "thank you" or a smile from the recipient of our kindness). In contrast, when we "do a favor," we expect that the other person would do a favor for us in the future.
- Kindness is an act of anonymity. Sometimes we commit acts of kindness for people whom we do not meet. Even when our identity is known by the recipient, we do not linger to accept any acclaim beyond the person's smile or a word of gratitude; kindness is usually "hit-and-run."
- Kindness is generally a spontaneous act. We see a need, and we fulfill it immediately.
- Archetypal field-work.
- Self-talk. "I enjoy being kind to people." "When I am kind, I am happy."
- Directed imagination. We can visualize ourselves performing acts of kindness.
- Energy toning. We can generate the energy tones of compassion, caring, etc.
- The "as if" principle. We act as if we are kind.
- This person might need to work out the problem alone. Our kindness would be viewed as meddling, co-dependent, or an intrusion into the person's privacy.
- We might need to tend to our own responsibilities. We cannot spend all of our time helping other people.
- Specific actions might be inappropriate. For example, our act of kindness might be to give ice cream to a child -- but the child's parent might not want us to do that.
- We can buy the equipment. For example, we can have tools and jumper cables in our car, to assist motorists. We can have a city map, to help people who are lost.
- We can acquire the training. For example, we can learn how to do basic car repairs. We can learn first aid (including CPR).