Inner Guidance 1 ~ No Connection
By Wallace Huey
When you have no connection with inner guidance you rely on your mind, your reasoning powers and your analytical ability, to make decisions and to plot the way forward in life. This is the reason you may spend excessive amounts of time thinking about the future and the various options as to how it could be better or different.
You also spend a lot of time thinking about the past - what you did that didn't work. Whenever someone suggests a new direction your mind will go to work and usually be focussed on why - based on past experience - it's not a good idea and why it will not work.
Therefore you devote much of your precious energy in either the past or the future and you may find it challenging to stay focussed in the present. You will probably have heard of such practices as meditation and mindfulness but regard them as either irrelevant or a mystical version of Cloud 9 thinking, not connected to everyday reality.
Despite pride in your mental capacities, your belief in their powers and in the education system that supports mental prowess, you often experience making decisions as incredibly time consuming, energy sapping and challenging. You may lie awake at night pondering the various options, losing sleep and yet being no further forward in the morning. This may be a great source of frustration and stress and will definitely limit your ability to take risks, to move ahead with your life.
As a person with no connection to inner guidance, you often find personal relationships challenging. In business, picking team members to do certain tasks seems full of difficulty. The "soft skills" like interpersonal communication and creativity, sometimes heralded as important in business these days, seem a bit airy-fairy and irrelevant. When faced with decisions at home or at work, doubt often plagues your mind. Even if you are the decisive type and do come down strongly on what needs to be done, doubt is never far away.
The skills needed to have a successful romantic relationship may seem like an impregnable mystery. As a consequence your romantic relationship - and also your relationships with your children - may be filled with stress and confusion. You may find yourself in a power struggle with your partner or family members, a struggle that seems to have no end.
Differences are often resolved by simply giving in and resigning yourself to not getting your way. Unresolved conflict is something you often experience and you may even have shut down on some needs and dreams that are important to you because you find you cannot be heard or understood.
Alternatively you may peruse "experiences" that are novel or unusual as a way of making something new happen and to relieve the emptiness and boredom of your life.
In either case, your life will be filled with a nagging feeling that something is missing, without necessarily knowing what it is.
You find that many of your decisions do not work out well and that you have to put in a lot of time trying to make them work. Complex problems, with many unknowns and possibilities, are a real challenge for you. In some cases this may force you to look for the safe options in life - the steady job, the boring but reliable marriage partner, the predictable holiday destination. Life does change, of course, but rarely in a way that uplifts your spirits and that brings fun to your home and workplace.
If this sounds familiar, please do not despair. This describes most people's lives to a greater or lesser extent. But be reassured your life can change. You can have fun, laughter, abundance and fullfillment.
Wallace Huey - Director of Training
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