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"I'm at the end of my tether with my child"

Hello Ayal,

My son is five and a half years old, and almost from the moment he was born, he has been a most difficult child to rear. His problems began with colic, followed by repeated chest infections, followed by campylobacterial infections, asthma, repeated ear infections necessitating insertion of grommets, dyspraxia, ADHD, social disorders, chronic cough... the list goes on and on! There must be some other cause for this. Can you shed any light? His name is Adrian, and he was born in Dublin, Ireland on 18th May, 1996. I am at the end of my tether with this child. Do you see any light at the end of the tunnel for him.


Hi - well, I surely understand and empathize with you that in dealing with this you must be extremely exhausted. That's quite a lot of your life energy going into taking care of and dealing with some deeply anxiety-producing stuff. What is showing up for your son is, interestingly enough, that HE is feeling great anxiety - so, no wonder that is what is getting created - he is expressing it through his body on an instinctual level, and you are experiencing it as well, as you deal with what he is feeling. He is very, very sensitive to the energies around him in his environment, and it's too much for him to deal with. I don't know if you still live in Ireland, but wherever it is you are living, Adrian is picking up the energy of conflict on such a large level that his body is going out of whack with it. He needs to be in a calm and quiet place where he can experience seclusion and rest and not be affected by these other energies. I don't know if that's possible for you, but quiet country living is what's needed here. Lots of good green earth connecting, and lots of peacefulness around him.

Two other things I want to mention in answer to your e-mail. One is that if you haven't read this book already, get hold of it. It's called The Indigo Children, and it deals with the new kind of children who are incarnating on the planet these days. Most of them are on a different wavelength than what we've experienced before. They're wide open, very psychic, and being surrounded by the too fast paced technological culture we have is not what they are made for. Most of them come in with ADHD. It will give you some very good insights, I think.

Also, when Adrian is 6 and a half, it would be a good thing for him, with your guidance, to call his spirit back. I think he needs to be away for a while from the energy of conflict before he does this. He doesn't have a lot of his life force energy present due to all the struggle he's undergone. It would actually be a good thing for you to do, too. We can lose parts of our spirit, or life force energy, due to any kind of trauma - often we hear people say "I was just beside myself" or "I'm just not all here", and those statements are energetically absolutely true. We can be "outside" of ourselves, and we can be not all here. We then have to call our energy back to us. To do this, find a quiet time and private place where you won't be disturbed - get into a prayer or meditation state, and send your awareness gently out into the universe, asking that it find, connect with, and bring back to you your spirit that has left due to trauma. Just sit quietly in an open and receptive state, really desiring that you have all of yourself back with you. Allow it to come to you, just open to it. It will help you both a lot. Adrian, being as young as he is, can just call for it in his mind, like you'd call for a lost puppy, and let him know that it will feel good, just like he'd feel so happy if his lost puppy came running back to him. That may be an anology he can work with and understand.

Blessings, Ayal

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