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"Every time I see my mother she constantly criticizes me"

I AM 39 YEARS OLD, MARRIED, AND HAVE 1 CHILD. MY PROBLEM IS EVERY TIME I SEE MY MO SHE CONSTANTLY CRITICIZES ME ABOUT WHAT MY CHILD AND I ARE WEARING, MY HAIR, ETC. SHE DOES THIS IN FRONT OF OTHERS. ALSO I HAVE TALKED TO HER ABOUT IT BUT TO NO AVAIL, A BIG ARGUMENT ENSUES. SHE EVEN CRITICIZES ME TO OTHERS AND THEY COME BACK AND TELL ME. IM ALMOST AT THE POINT OF CUTTING OFF RELATIONS WITH HER. ANY SUGGESTIONS BECAUSE I LOVE HER AND WANT THIS TO CEASE.

Hi - I invite you to read the Laws of the Universe found on this site until you get an "aha!" There are internal issues you have going on that are creating this situation in your life, and when you read the Laws, you will gain a clearer understanding of how we create our own reality, and of how life mirrors for us, in the form of external people and situations, our internal landscape. You will learn what's going on and how to change it.

You will need to clear within yourself issues of feeling trapped and threatened, issues of nervousness, of coming from the victim place, and a belief that you can't stand up for yourself, or provide for yourself what you need in life. With these beliefs going on, how surprised are you that you would attract to yourself a critical parent who tells you that you're not good enough? When you change the energetic patterns you are sending out into the world and operating out of, your external world changes to match your new pattern. There is a formula found in the Laws which deals with changing unworkable core beliefs into better ones. You can use that to change these beliefs. There is also a technique called "emotional erase" you can use where you focus on the issue and the feelings that go along with a particular issue, and then you rub across your brow with your hand until you sense a release. Sometimes you need to repeat this as needed, as there are many layers to any issue. Some people yawn, or experience a lifting of the energy as they do this. You can use that technique with each of the above mentioned issues, but I think reading the information found in the Laws will be very important for you to do.

You are operating on a sort of basic survival level, and in order to get beyond that kind of fearful place where you are just doing your best to survive, and in order to move instead into being able to create what you choose, there is a need to transform imbalances you have on the instinctual level of your being. To do this, I'd do some work with your 2nd chakra. Sit in a quiet place, with eyes closed, and visualize a beautiful, glowing, orange wheel of light there, at the pelvic/genital area, spinning clockwise, and ask that whatever needs to be released is released, and whatever needs to be restored is restored. I'd do this for 15 minutes, 3 times a day, for 2 weeks.

It would also be good for you to do some detoxification of your lymphatic system. You can go to a naturopathic doctor or holistic chiropractor to see about doing that.

I am also getting that it is necessary for you to see the larger picture regarding this situation with you and your mother. In order to do this, I think that it would be useful for you to go to someone who can offer you more information regarding the karma between you and your mother. You will also come to see what had you create this situation and you will discover what it is you came in to learn in this lifetime. I invite you to find a very high level, reputable person who can give you a reading - not a hokey dial a psychic type of thing, but someone who is truly able in this area to give you viable information. You can ask, or put out your clear intention, to be guided to such a person, if you don't know of one. Often there are directories in cities of healing practitioners. That might be a good place to start, if your area has such a directory, or if it has a metaphysical center that can provide such information.

Blessings, Ayal

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