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"He tells me he loves me but he's often busy and doesn't call"

the problem is he tells me he loves me and what not, things go really great sometimes, but then there are those times when he dont call me or come see me, and when i ask him whats going on he just says he has been busy. i dont know what to do it's like he is playing with my heart and i can't take the pain what can i do to make him stop doing this to me?

Hi - well, I have answered many letters from young women with this same issue recently. I invite you to read these letters in the column, as you will find some important stuff there for you as well. Also, he isn't "doing" anything to you. That's thinking like a victim. You have given all of your power over to him, and probably to others, instead of having your own sense of who you. You need to develop and have your own power and creative energy. You think that you are dependent upon what he does or doesn't do to feel good. That's a false belief. It's up to you to create your life the way you want it to be. It's not about changing him, but all about changing yourself. Thinking others are doing something "to you" and then thinking they have to change for you to feel better only brings distress. You can learn to create your life as you choose it to be - but you can't do that if you keep on thinking and living like a victim. No one "does anything" to anyone else. You need to read the Laws of the Universe found on this site in order to understand this. I invite you to read it many times until you really understand what it's talking about. It teaches how we all create our own reality, that we all create how things are in our lives, even how other people relate to us - it teaches that what's going on in our lives in NEVER because of what another person, place, or thing is doing. It's all about our own energy and how we are using it, and how we are choosing to think, and what we choose to believe about ourselves and life. If you really want to feel better in your life, I think it would be good for you to read it and begin to practice what it teaches.

Blessings, Ayal

332. "My boyfriend prefers to party rather than spending time with me"


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