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"My man wants to look at porn on the Internet all the time"

I have been in several different relationships, I can't seem to get over my jealousy. I have a wonderful man now, but he seems to want to look at porn on the internet all the time or watch women on tv non stop. He tells me that he's not interested in younger women but I catch him looking all the time, don't know what is wrong with me it's driving me crazy!

Hello. Jealousy is fear that you are not good enough. Your job is to discover where that fear came from, and heal it. If you have that fear, you will constantly be threatened by whatever other people choose to do, even if it has nothing to do with you or how they feel about you. Sit in meditation and ask where this jealousy issue originated, and just allow yourself to open to whatever answers may come. When you discover what the origin of this belief is, then you can state this intention: "All the origins of this problem are healing now." I'd say that twice a day for 3 months.

I also invite you to get some body/energetic re-balancing work done by having some polarity sessions. You can look polarity healing up on the net for a practitioner near you. I'd say have at least 2 sessions minimum, more if needed.

There is the issue of unreciprocated affection showing up for you. This is an issue that stems from the belief that no matter how much love you put out, or no matter what you do, it will never be good enough, that the love you put out won't be returned or appreciated. That belief needs to be transformed. How could you ever feel safe in any relationship, or life in general, with a belief like that going on? And that's all it is - a thought form you decided to believe at some point. But there are painful emotions that go along with false beliefs that get stuck inside of us and need to be released for healing to happen. Changing the belief and releasing the accompanying emotions are a huge part of the healing process. Then you consciously choose what it is you now decide to believe, and you allow a new emotion that feels good to present itself. This is all in the Laws of the Universe found on this site. You can use the formula for changing core beliefs found in the Laws of the Universe to transform these beliefs. Reading the info presented in the Laws will be very helpful for you. There is a lot of inner work and healing for you to do. As you clear these issues and beliefs and the emotions that are stuck inside of you, your life will be very different.

There are also issues showing up about thinking you need to compete, and also issues about feeling destroyed in some way. Deep stuff to heal. A 7th chakra issue of not trusting life is showing up for you, too. Read Caroline Myss's book, 'Anatomy of the Spirit' to get more info about this. Also pay special attention to the 3rd chakra chapter. There is some karma here that you are working through. Letting go of that will be a good thing to do. Maybe you judged others for not being good enough somewhere along the way, and now that you have experienced the pain at the other end of it, you can bless everyone you ever judged, including yourself, let go of it, and begin to view life and others from a more accepting and loving stand point.

Using an an Aura-Soma product called the Sanat Kumara and Lady Venus Kumara quintessence for bringing the divine into the everyday would be good for you. You can call (830) 935-2355 to order it.

Blessings, Ayal

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