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"I haven't gotten my menstruation since last september and I'm very worried"

Hello, my name is Karla and I really need you to answer this important question of mine. I haven't gotten my menstruation since last September and I'm very worried. I know that I am not pregnant because I'm only in my teenage years - I'm 14 and I haven't have sex before either. Please answer my question, I'm very worried... thank you for your time

Stress illness, diet - all of these can affect the mentsruation cycle. I would suggest that you make an appointment with a good gynocologist and get checked out. It also helps to sleep with moonlight beaming down on you to get back in the rhythm of the menstruation cycle, as women cycle with the moon.

WHAT I AM ALSO GETTING IS THAT YOUR MASCULINE/FEMININE POLARITY, OR BALANCE IS OFF. YOU COULD ALSO MAKE AN APPOINTMENT WITH A GOOD ENERGY HEALER OR CHIROPRACTOR IN YOUR AREA AND TELL THEM ABOUT THIS DIFFICULTY. THERE ARE EASY WAYS TO GET YOU BACK IN BALANCE - WORKING WITH THE ENERGY MERIDIANS OF THE BODY WOULD BE VERY HELPFUL FOR YOU.

IN THE MEANTIME, WORK WITH THIS VISUALIZATION, AND SEE WHAT INFORMATION YOU GET.

Masculine/Feminine Balancing
The balance of male and female makes us whole. We all have a feminine side and a masculine side to us. In Jungian psychology, it is termed the anima and animus: the male has an inner feminine, while the female has an inner masculine. This makes total sense, as we all come from both the masculine and the feminine - a mother and a father- egg and sperm. Neither is more or less important than the other - they simply offer us different and very necessary parts of our being.

The aspect of the masculine contains (in brief) the more rational, direct, practical, assertive qualities, while the feminine is the creative, intuitive, feeling, visionary part. The feminine also contains the ability to look inward, as the masculine quality is outward directed.

Being introspective is a crucial aspect of who we are. In our society in general, the feminine aspect of our being, (as with women in general), has been labeled "less than." For a man, in some ways, showing feminine qualities, or feelings, as you expressed in mentioning the wall you created around yourself, has even been forbidden. If a man is seen as sensitive and introspective, he is laughed at and labeled a wimp. Therefore it becomes dangerous to show feelings or let others in, as there is a great fear of ridicule and rejection. Why this has come to be is a long story, but the gist of it is, how unbalanced and crazy it is to think that a half of our being is stupid, less than, or something to be demeaned. It is clear as crystal that one without the other doesn't work to create life, whether that means a literal life, a child, or our own creative, balanced, healthy life as an individual.

The old and unbalanced masculine programming that most men were given tells one that when you are introspective you are doing something wrong. Your feminine part that knows you must go inward to be a clear human being. If a man gets very much out of balance by denying his feminine inner self, he will most likely have difficulties in two areas: (1) he will not be able to be in touch with his feelings, and (2) this can lead to difficulties in relationships with others, not to mention oneself. A man, or woman, who denies her feminine, may substitute the lack of warmth that they feel for ambition and live a mostly analytical way of life. Mind over heart, in other words. While the rational certainly has its place and is an extremely important aspect of our being, without heart it becomes hard and cold, perhaps overly ambitious, as it substitutes warmth for ego attainment and accomplishment.

There are many ways to get in touch with whatever part of us has been repressed. One excellent method is to do a visualization where you find some quiet, alone time, put on some gentle, soothing music (instrumental, no voices) and, after becoming quiet and relaxed, and breathing deeply and gently for a few minutes, with eyes closed, you ask to see and speak with your feminine side. Then you Trust whatever shows up for you - whether it be impressions, or information, or thoughts, or a flash of memory or understanding. You can hold a conversation with this part and ask it what it needs, asking how you can help it to be more available to you, or more healthy, etc. You can also do this with your masculine side and, as you work and directly connect with both parts of yourself, you will create a new and healthier, more dynamic balance between them. You can ask them to converse together, to share with one another what is needed also to create a symbiotic and complimentary wholeness between them. What is revealed may prove to be quite interesting.

I would invite you to do this, checking in now and again to continue the growth process. It is a timely issue, as it IS time for all of us to be in and create a harmonious balance between the male and female parts of ourselves, to get beyond the duality of conflict into wholeness, where the whole is greater than the parts. We see this evidenced in the outer world every day as women struggle to be accepted, not be put down or thought of as sexual objects. We see it in the horror of how women are treated in the Arab countries and the ensuing high suicide rate. We see it in the movements that have taken place over the last 20 years to bring greater equality to the sexes, as men also struggle to be in touch with their gentler side. We have become polarized, the male and female struggling against one another, out of touch with one another, with no tools to bridge the gap, and we see this in the high divorce rates. In reality the male/female balance ought to be seen as a oneness, both beautiful, both equal, but different parts of a greater whole.

Blessings, Ayal

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