Trans4mind Home Page

10 Things to Consider if You Have an Impossible Manager

When you have an impossible manager, quit? Sometimes that's impossible. If you find yourself And a solution that simple is hardly a solution. There are several things to consider we're going to take a look at:

1.Get a coach.

In order to problem-solve effectively, it's crucial to view the situation objectively, which you aren't in a position to do. No one is. Working with a coach can help you clarify what's going on, and come up with strategies for dealing with it. You'll learn more about yourself, and how to deal with others. That's a win-win. Don't leave the situation without learning from it.

2.The company culture.

This isn't what's in the P&P manual (which is about legal) it's about how the place really runs. If the norm is hostility and competence, you won't be changing it, and you can count on it getting worse. Should your particular manager leave, another one similar will be hired.

3.Everything else is excellent.

This I usually hear from people new to a job, because you can count on things getting worse with time, not better. If there's something important or meaningful you're getting out of the job, stay, but don't get lulled in to staying forever. It will negatively impact your ability to function at top-form eventually.

4.Your outlook

Your attitude can always improve a situation. Just don't think you can change the personality or skills of the manager, or the culture of the company that allows this. Work with your coach, and surround yourself with positive people. Jobs and managers come and go. The only disastrous outcome would be for you to become cynical and pessimistic about yourself, life, or people in general.

5.Are you in the loop?

Sometimes your colleagues can make up for a bad manager. After all, there's power in numbers. If you have a core group that can work around the situation, you'll have support. However, expect the behavior of the manager to get worse as he or she tries to compensate for perceived loss of power.

6.Age and career potential of the manager.

Use your gut instincts to evaluate every new situation you move into. Quick and accurate reality-testing is an EQ competency.

Common sense dictates if they're new and young, they may not make it. Actually these days anyone 'new' may not make it. If they have some experience under their belt and seem interested in promoting themselves, they'll probably be moving on and up. If they are middle-aged, have been there a while, and are dug in like a tick, consider they'll endure and you will not.

Your gut feelings can tell you who is on-the-move and who has moved in to stay. You can also tell how important this particular manager is to those above him and her. If they're liked by superiors, should there be a confrontation, they'll be staying, you'll be leaving.

Pay attention to things like this. It will make a difference in your career.

7.Know your strengths and remind yourself of them.

This is not referring to emotional, or to knowing your limitations (those it's necessary to know these as well), but rather to the innate talents and skills you bring to bear to any situation. The personality traits and competencies that you use for problem-solving, and how you look at things. take one of the many assessments available and review them with a coach.

8.Life skills.

Always be working on your personal and professional development. Just as you acquire degrees, skills and expertise in your field, you should be developing your emotional intelligence. Such competencies as stress management, leadership, interpersonal skills, quick and accurate reality-testing, communication skills, resilience and flexibility will help you in this situation, as well as any other you face. Learning EQ has long-term positive results. Most clients recognize positive outcomes immediately in their lives.

9.Get out of it the good things there to be gotten.

An 'impossible' manager can range from impossible, to difficult, to challenging, to possible. You have some leverage there in your own attitude and EQ. If there are things making the job worth keeping, focus on those. Work on getting along with the manager well enough. Don't exaggerate their effect on you. Some emotional strain is probably more to be tolerated than a manger who is impacting your ability to function, learn and increase the skills you need to advance your own career.

10.Be mindful if this is a pattern.

If this is the last in a long series of impossible managers, it's probably you. If you transfer to another department or job, and have another impossible manager, it's probably you. Get coaching!

About the Author
Susan Dunn, MA Psychology, Emotional Intelligence Coach, I help people become better communicators and develop their emotional intelligence through coaching, Internet courses and ebooks. Susan is the author of "Nonverbal Communication."

From our extensive site, you'll find good info on many topics using this search:

Support your personal development with these popular and effective hypnosis downloads...

  • Public Speaking Fear ~ Banish speaking anxiety and nerves with hypnosis.
  • Motivate Yourself to Exercise ~ Build a powerful exercise habit that you can't break.
  • Get Rid of Fear & Anxiety ~ Stop worry and apprehension wrecking your life.
  • Self Esteem ~ Break the negative trance of low self esteem and give yourself a chance in life.
  • Create Your Own Reality ~ Use the power of your unconscious mind to transform your life.
  • Deeper Self Respect ~ Use hypnosis to connect with your true inner worth.
  • Detach From Fear ~ Tune out nervousness and anxiety with hypnosis.
  • Improving Concentration and Focus ~ Learn how to discipline, direct and command your mind to improve your performance.
  • Exercise Motivation ~ Give you powerful keys to getting back on track with your exercise - and staying there.
  • Overcoming Shyness ~ Provides an invisible security blanket allowing you to develop social ease and overcome shyness.
  • Quick Confidence Booster ~ An audio hypnosis session that's specifically designed to get you (quickly!) back on track.
  • Stop Negative Thoughts ~ Learn powerful hypnotic techniques to stop negative thoughts before they start.
  • Overcoming Procrastination ~ Let hypnosis help you get on with what you need to do, when you need to do it. Let nothing hold you back.
  • Think Thin ~ Use hypnosis to re-train your brain and lose weight naturally... that's how to get and stay slim.
  • Fall Asleep Fast ~ Relearn how to fall asleep fast and enjoy a good night's sleep.
  • The Next Level ~ Designed to radically boost your performance in any field. It's based on a technique used by top athletes and other successful people to help them make a big stride forward.
This is our selection of favorites, but there's a session for every need! Choose from over 800 Hypnosis Downloads...
Search now on an issue that interests or concerns you...

View all the Hypnosis Downloads here

The New Wave in Meditation Technology

Click here to learn more about the iAwake Profound Meditation Program
The iAwake Profound Meditation Program
is a way of enhancing your meditation practice, making meditation not only easier and more enjoyable, but also more efficient and effective.
Profound Meditation provides the smoothest, deepest, richest, most profound meditation experience available anywhere...
Here is a link to a free 20-minute track from iAwake Technologies - a sample of the type of tools that will deepen your meditation immediately and help you quickly become a successful meditator. It's the opening track of iAwake's flagship product, the Profound Meditation Program, called the iAwake Experience...
Learn More and Download the iAwake Experience
We think you'll find this technology a tremendous aid on your transformative journey of becoming your best and most creative self - and you can get started today!
Copyright © 1997-2018 Trans4mind Ltd