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Do Women Really Relate Sex To Dancing?

No matter what, no matter when, no matter who, any man has a chance to sweep any woman off her feet. He just needs the right broom." That is what the "Date Doctor" said in the movie "Hitch" starring Will Smith. The Date Doctor goes ahead to say "women relate dancing to sex."

Since the movie featured, I have been bombarded with emails asking me if it is true that women relate dancing to sex. I know other people have other opinions, but as for me and my household, we believe that many women judge a man's sex potential by his dance moves. With a few exceptions, music touches women in a very profound and unique way 'it stirs their soulfulness. Dance on the other hand unlocks the playful and sensuous side of her personality. And if men only knew what a powerful aphrodisiac dancing is for women, they might not be getting the "I am not in the mood" as often as they do.

Many of my girlfriends and women I have been privileged to work with tell me they could tell what kind of a lover a man would be by the way he danced. They could tell if a man is a player, shy, inhibited or uninhibited, passionate or passive and yes they could even tell if he is a drunk by observing the way he moves his body on the dance floor. And when it comes to dating, these women say they want a man who is interested in more than just eat, work and sleep. They want a man who knows how to communicate his love potential and one who knows how to move that sexual energy through his body. If you've seen Patrick Swayze in "Dirty Dancing" then you know what I am talking about. It is much more than "dancing sexy", it is like the man reaches deep within and then releases that inner being in sensual movement. It is purposeful yet playful. It is relaxed and effortless. Something about his body says "strong and tender, fun and frivolous". It'' can I put it? It gives a woman that "jolt" below the navel. And when a woman has tasted the pleasure of dancing in the arms of a good dancer, it is next to impossible to settle for anything less, unless he has some incredibly exciting career in which they can experience unlimited financial freedom together or he is unbelievable in bed or both!

Unfortunately misperceptions depicting dance as being effeminate keeps a lot of men from getting their groove on. Some need a two-drink minimum to get the nerve to get on the floor. And when they do get on the dance floor, their alcohol-aided sense of adventure is a series of exaggerated theatrical gestures that are a torture to watch.

Guys, if you do not have the unlimited cash flow or do not exactly fall into the category of "unbelievable" in bed then a dance class should be your next stop. If you've already got the moves, show off that fancy footwork and I don't mean those Tarzan ape-like gestures. Put some grace into it. If you have not been to the gym lately and have accumulated a little bit of excess or have a really lean slight build, please don't try belly-dancing. Leave that to the co-ed high school dance floor. Unless of course your intention is to attract another man, then by all means, more power to you. But for the man who embraces more of his masculine side, the wrist-turned- up-elbows-against-hips thingy 'no, don't do that.

Dances like tango, salsa and ball-room dancing are some of the most passionate and graceful dances around but only good for you if you already have a relationship or have made a strong connection. And remember she has to say yes to "shall we dance" first. To make certain that she will say yes, when you approach her, show her what you got. No, please not that. Keep that for another day, another place and another time. I mean show her your moves. The Ricky Martin-Usher-Omarion sensual dance moves around the groin can get her imagination going in a romantic seductive way. If she's at your wavelength, she'll most likely get the message and smile back.

About the author:
Christine Akiteng is an internationally renown Dating Coach with a unique and fresh outlook to what love is really about and what we can expect from our sexual relations. If you enjoyed reading this article check out Christine's Website: for more: The Sweet Smell Of Sexcess, Your Sexual Style Could Be Hurting Your Relationships, The Best Sex Is Spontaneous Sex!, Sex 'Is Yours Waist Up Or Waist Down?


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