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Tips for Making the First Date Bearable

By Susan Dunn, The EQ Coach

The first date is a high-stress time. Here are some ways to make it work better for you.

1. Keep it in perspective.

If it's going well, no problem, but if it isn't, remember it's just a date and it'll end. Make the most of it.

2. Keep your expectations in line.

Consider possibilities rather than expectations, and you'll be more content with the outcome.

3. Plan an activity.

You can focus on the activity and won't have time for nerves. Go hiking, to an art museum, the rodeo. You'll be busy focusing on other things and also have something to talk about next time.

4. Stay in the moment.

This is a new relationship with all sorts of possiblities. Don't drag the past into it. All your past relationships are over.

5. Stay optimistic.

You know the saying - if you think you'll fail, you're right. If you think you'll succeed, you're right.

6. Dress casual.

Be approachable, don't be intimidating.

7. Have a time-limited date.

Knowing it's just for an hour or two hours makes it more manageable. Meeting for lunch on a work day is one idea. You'll both have to get back to work, so you can keep it short and sweet.

8. Watch the self-disclosure.

Use your EQ. Share a little about yourself, but not everything on the first date. It's TMI. Besides a little mystery's always a good thing.

9. Be prepared.

Meeting someone new can be stressful. Make a list of interesting conversation topics for when your mind gets a little
foggy. Hobbies, good movies, favorite books, and travel are always safe conversation topics. We all like to talk about ourselves, so be a good listener!

10. Enjoy yourself.

Someone who's having a good time is irresistible.

About the Author
Susan Dunn, MA Psychology, Emotional Intelligence Coach, I help people become better communicators and develop their emotional intelligence through coaching, Internet courses and ebooks. Susan is the author of "Nonverbal Communication."

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