Patience: a Better Way?
By Maureen Killoran
I believe it! We receive the lessons we need to learn...and we keep receiving /em until we get it at least half-way right. At least, it seemed this way to me recently, when a trip from North Carolina to Oregon took a total of 50+ hours travel time, there and back. The smart aleck mantra, "Got time to spare? Go by air! was in my mind as as everything that COULD go wrong DID...equipment malfunction...fog...ice...crew change...lost luggage...extended holding patterns...emergency rates at an airport hotel...except...
Except that, in the end, we DID arrive safely at our destinations. Airline personnel were 100% courteous and friendly. A Travelers Aid volunteer pointed us to good-quality food and relatively comfortable chairs for our 12 hours in San Francisco. (Hint: Try the sushi in the International Terminal!)
Patience is a virtue, one hard to come by in a world that counts time in nanoseconds. From soundbites to microwaves, we expect life to come in user-friendly format, and we're quick to take it personally when it doesn't.
DID YOU KNOW:
And on the other side:
SURELY THERE IS A BETTER WAY?
Back at that fogged-in airport, and the clutch of more-or-less anxious passengers. One expensively-dressed mam puffed himself up, stomped to the podium, and in a voice heard across the crowded waiting area, "You don't understand, he shouted. "I AM IMPORTANT!"
Truth is, we're all of us - and none of us - important in the larger scheme of things. When big stuff happens, when there's nothing we can do to effect a change...then the best thing to do is do nothing. Hunker down. Wait gracefully. Breathe. Give thanks for whatever good things may be.
In The Power of Patience (Broadway, 2003), writer M. J. Ryan offers several simple steps we can take to put ourselves - and our life - in perspective. I especially like her suggestion to carry a small stone in my pocket. "When you start to feel irritation arise, Ryan advises, "move the pebble from one pocket to the other, which will help interrupt the anger cycle and give you a chance to regroup."
Pebbles are good. And if, like me, you are often caught without a pocket to your name, may I offer an even easier idea: Extend your hand, palm down. Focus on it - yours is unique, unlike any other hand in the world. Now slowly - S-T-R-E-T-C-H your fingers... Extend them...H-O-L-D it...and then RELAX.
Relax your fingers.
Relax your hand.
Relax your heart.
Relax into a slower space, where stakes are by definition lower.
AND NOW...WELCOME. WELCOME TO YOUR WORLD.
About The Author
Maureen Killoran, MA, DMin, is a Life Coach with a passion for helping people connect their strengths with their vision. Maureen offers dynamic individual and group coaching, work team empowerment training, teleclasses, and a free monthly e-zine, "Seeds of Change." Her articles are published on over 50 websites, and have been translated into several languages. Watch for Maureen's forthcoming e-workbook, SpiritQuesting (tm) -- a non-sectarian path to personal deepening and growth. Why not contact Maureen for a complimentary coaching consultation?