If I'm not accepted, I'm not okay.
By David Longo
Has that ever been your motto? Be honest with yourself, now. Don't you secretly think this? Sure, you might have that "inner wall" of resistance to a statement like that which responds with something like, "I don't care if people accept me" or "hey if they don't like me, it's their problem" or something like that. But responses like that are usually unconsciously used as a temporary way to avoid the truth.
If you can honestly say, "Okay, I admit it...I'll sometimes do what I can so that I create a favorable impression - after all, it's better to be liked than not liked," then you can give yourself a pat on the back, because you can at least admit there is an underlying need for approval.
Would you like to be rid of that need? Seriously, would you? And, instead, just be able to accept complements as "icing on the cake" - and, hey, if you don't get them, that's just fine too? Truly, if you are willing to face up to what we're talking about here, then you're in for happier days - GUARANTEED!
The workplace is a prime example of how this inner game can sabotage your self esteem. Why do you let this happen? Getting along with co-workers is not always an easy task - pleasing the boss can seem like a never-ending cycle. The need to be viewed as "someone pretty special" in the eyes of co-workers can often result in mental exhaustion at the end of your workday that you could just do without! No wonder you often can't wait to get home! (Be honest, does any of this sound familiar?)
Vernon Howard once said, "There is no pleasing the fear of displeasing others."
That statement is a "pot of gold" if you'll just pick it up. Would you like to? Would you like to start immediately changing your view on the role that approval-seeking has in your life - both at home, in your social life, and perhaps especially in the workplace?
Then, get going with Emotional Triggers: Stop Pushing My Buttons! and Relationships: Is It Me? At this point in time, you can still enjoy our 2 for 1 special - don't wait...don't put this off - it will mean a world of difference to you.
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About The Author
David Longo is Co-founder along with Dr. Sandra Nelson of self help website Tell-Me-About-It.com - thousands of people visit Tell-Me-About-It.com every month to receive their second education.
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