Trans4mind Home Page
~ Making the Human Heart Visible ~

Looking for a better life?

Our online, interactive video workshops present the most effective methods of holistic personal development, combined with personal support from expert life coaches.

Explore Article Library


When Other People Hurt You!

By Kenia Morales

In life we all experience our ups and downs. Even if many of us would like life to be pretty much simple or perfect. However, this is far from reality. In life there is a balance between happiness and sadness. The sources that lead to either feeling may vary. Examples of what brings happiness to some people are obtaining a college degree, starting a new career, seeing an old friend etc. There is really not just one action or situation that can bring a smile in to our faces. However, this same principle applies to the feeling of sadness or grief. One reason why a person may feel sad could be cause by the actions of another person. If you ever felt sad because someone you love hurt you by betraying you, being mean to you etc. Then you get my point.

But, what should you do when a significant other hurts you? In my opinion you should not do anything; Except for standing up for yourself, by this I mean that it is okay to communicate your feelings to them and protecting yourself if necessary. Other than that you should let life run its course. I do not know about you but, I am a firm believer of "karma or on the popular saying "what goes around comes around." When a person is unfair with me or simply treats me in a wrongful manner, I would usually withdraw or confront them. But, I do not try to take justice in to my own hands (revenge).

I know that some people would disagree with me but, we are not all alike and that is fine. For me personally, whenever someone does not appreciate me as a person, friend, lover, etc. and does me wrong I believe that it is their loss not mines. I believe that whenever someone that you have done nothing wrong to treats you unfairly it is a direct reflection of their personality. Think about it people that can not respect or appreciate you for who you are may not deserve you after all. An example of this would be a cheating partner he or she may have one thousand excuses and they may sound like this: my partner does not take care of me, my partner is mean to me, my partner does not help me, my partner does not appreciate me etc. I will stop listing excuses but I am pretty sure that you can add several more issues to it. When in reality the cheating spouse may be leaving out a few problems related to their own character flaws and they sound like this: I am being un-loyal to the person that shares his or her life with me; I am cheating because I am unable to be committed in a relationship etc. Did you see the connection? Isn't it evident that the cheating partner has more issues than the other one? Wouldn't things be different if the person sought to fix the problem with their partner instead running out and taking actions that will further destroy the marriage? Yes, I believe it would make a thon of difference.

So, whenever someone hurts you, do not let their actions change anything about you. Let life take its course and one day karma will catch up with them. Then they will know that treating others poorly is wrong. You on the other hand get to keep your head up!

About The Author

Kenia Morales is the publisher of online magazine http://kpatra.com "For Every Aspect of Today's Woman. Visit her site to find a variety of women related issues and topics" click here http://kpatra.com/keniascolumn.htm to read more inspirational articles written by her.


AND EXPLORE...

Addictions
Astrology
Careers & Employment
Communication
Creativity
Dating
Depression
Diabetes
Diets
Divorce
Education
Environment
Ethics
Exercise
Family
Goal-Setting
Grief & Loss
Happiness
Health
Kids & Teens
Leadership
Love
Marriage
Meditation
Nutrition
Organizing
Parenting
Psychology
Public Speaking
Relationships
Schools
Self Help
Self Improvement & Motivation
Sexual Relations
Spirituality
Stress Management
Travel and Leisure
Women
Writing


From our extensive site, you'll find good info on many topics using this search:

Support your personal development with these popular and effective hypnosis downloads...

  • Public Speaking Fear ~ Banish speaking anxiety and nerves with hypnosis.
  • Motivate Yourself to Exercise ~ Build a powerful exercise habit that you can't break.
  • Get Rid of Fear & Anxiety ~ Stop worry and apprehension wrecking your life.
  • Self Esteem ~ Break the negative trance of low self esteem and give yourself a chance in life.
  • Create Your Own Reality ~ Use the power of your unconscious mind to transform your life.
  • Deeper Self Respect ~ Use hypnosis to connect with your true inner worth.
  • Detach From Fear ~ Tune out nervousness and anxiety with hypnosis.
  • Improving Concentration and Focus ~ Learn how to discipline, direct and command your mind to improve your performance.
  • Exercise Motivation ~ Give you powerful keys to getting back on track with your exercise - and staying there.
  • Overcoming Shyness ~ Provides an invisible security blanket allowing you to develop social ease and overcome shyness.
  • Quick Confidence Booster ~ An audio hypnosis session that's specifically designed to get you (quickly!) back on track.
  • Stop Negative Thoughts ~ Learn powerful hypnotic techniques to stop negative thoughts before they start.
  • Overcoming Procrastination ~ Let hypnosis help you get on with what you need to do, when you need to do it. Let nothing hold you back.
  • Think Thin ~ Use hypnosis to re-train your brain and lose weight naturally... that's how to get and stay slim.
  • Fall Asleep Fast ~ Relearn how to fall asleep fast and enjoy a good night's sleep.
  • The Next Level ~ Designed to radically boost your performance in any field. It's based on a technique used by top athletes and other successful people to help them make a big stride forward.
This is our selection of favorites, but there's a session for every need! Choose from over 800 Hypnosis Downloads...
Search now on an issue that interests or concerns you...
 
Get a free Hypnosis Download at Facebook
Copyright © 1997-2016 Trans4mind Ltd