Stress and DIStress
By Kerul Kassel
Stress sometimes gets a bad rap. It's actually a useful and necessary part of life. Without it there would be little reason to invent, create, and live new and fascinating experiences. Stress often helps nudge us in a direction that is better for us. It gets us out of our comfort zones and into movement toward ideals or objectives and out of our ruts.
For example, Cecilia was had started a new business but hadn't been taking the steps to make the business as successful as she had envisioned it would be. It wasn't until the stress and frustration of the unpaid bills and lack of immediate or near-future income started to come into play that she realized her focus wasn't as sharp and targeted as it needed to be. The stress caused her to take steps in that direction, and she naturally started having more success.
When stress becomes overwhelming though, such as when it seems excessive or when it doesn't seem to have an ending point, and there seems no way to avoid it, that's when it becomes DIStress.
Do you have a job, situation, relationship or a responsibility that is difficult, a burden or a trial, seeming only to get more complex, involved, or difficult rather than better?
Does it seem that there is no end in sight to the situation and that it will go on indefinitely?
Do you feel that you have little choice in the situation and/or that your choices are extremely limited?
Are there too many plates your keeping up in the air, and they're threatening. or starting to come crashing down?
This is distress, and you need to learn how to cope with it.
Having a shoulder to lean on (and cry on) is helpful. A friendly ear to speak to (vent to!) is another help. Surrounding yourself with a community of others who are going through the same thing may be an assistance (unless you're all just griping and getting further frustrated and hopeless in the process).
A friend, clergyperson, therapist, or support group are options.
What may *really* make a difference, though? What if you were able to find some internal peace regardless of the outer circumstances? How much easier would life feel is the struggle were significantly (or greatly) minimized? Believe it or not, it's easier than you think!
We're attached to our struggles. We've been socialized to believe that struggle is necessary, even beneficial and noble! We've actually been conditioned to believe that if we're not struggling, there's something wrong with us! What do *you* believe about it?
There are some fairly simple techniques that can make an immense difference. Some of them are used in the playshops listed below. Others may be learned through coaching.
About The Author
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