Why Self-Love is Critical in Operating a Successful Home Business, Part 2
By Harvey Rosenberg
We ended Part 1 with two questions:
If self-love is so crucial to building a healthy self-esteem and helping us to be happy, what prevents more of us from deepening our self-love?
What keeps so many of us stuck in painful, hurtful, sad scenes where happiness is merely a passing dream?
We all want to be loved and to feel love. Yet, there are important Blocks to Self-Love that must be looked at and examined if we wish to deepen our self-love, improve our self-esteem, and to succeed in business.
Blocks to Self-Love
People don't love themselves because they feel guilty and unworthy.
People don't love themselves because they live with outdated values.
People don't love themselves because they are couch potatos and watch too much TV. It has been estimated that the average American watches close to four hours of TV daily. Think about where your self-image comes from when you watch that much TV.
Is your self-image yours or does it belong to the mass media?
People don't love themselves because they have unhealthy habits, such as not exercising enough, not getting their hearts beating rapidly.
People don't love themselves because they numb themselves with drugs, alcohol, food, sex, gambling, online pornography, and a host of other addictions that show the need for self-help.
People don't love themselves because they feel helpless and hopeless. They sense their life is going nowhere fast, and their self-talk is consistently negative.
Can you see how impossible it is to create a successful business when you're full of doom and gloom? You can't fool your customers and employees.
People don't love themselves because they want instant gratification too often. Usually, we become impatient and want everything yesterday. In business, we must have the patience to wait for our actions in the world to pay off.
Instant gratification is what babies and young people demand. As adults, we have to clear out the emotional wounds that keep us prisoners of our past.
People don't love themselves because they pay attention to and believe old tapes running in their minds.
Until we've attended enough self-help seminars, or read sufficient self-help books, or worked with a personal development or life coach who helps you to eliminate old emotional wounds, what we were told by our parents when we were growing up may be running our lives.
Our parents loved us. But their values and their beliefs may no longer serve us. You choose what to bring along with you from your upbringing.
Discard what no longer serves you.
People don't love themselves because they lack support from family or friends and/or never learned how. Lots of us confuse the definition of self-esteem and believe we're being selffish if we love ourselves. Hogwash!
People don't love themselves because they have low self-worth and an impoverished self-image. This can be a whole article in itself.
Feelings of shame and not being worthy destroy our spirit and make it impossible to succeed in any area of life, especially business and relationships.
People don't love themselves because they confuse selfish with self-love. I repeated this from above because it is so important.
People don't love themselves because they have lots of fears. When fear rules your life, it's impossible to be happy. Fear destroys joy, increases stress, and is the leading cause of failure, in my opinion.
People don't love themselves because they are unaware of how to love themselves. Well, that's why you're here to get an inkling of the importance of self-love.
People don't love themselves because they won't commit to their own success. Lots of people unconsciously think they are failures. I know from personal experience about this. It cost me literally millions of dollars in potential business profits.
Half of my business was stolen from me and because I had such a low self-esteem, such a poor self-image, and no self-worth, I did nothing about it. I allowed my business to vanish into thin air. That was in 1982.
In 2004, I attended a workshop in Utah. I learned that I had an unconscious Psychological Reversal to making money. Every time I got close to being financially successful, I'd do something to sabotage it.
For the past two years I've been using an Energy Psychology technique to transform and clear out the limiting, subconscious beliefs that have kept me from running and operating as successful a business as I could.
In Part 3 of The Role Self-Love Plays in Operating a Successful Business I explain the Benefits you receive when you deepen self-love. As someone said, everything begins with self-love.
I might add, all your successes in life depend upon your loving yourself enough to commit to your own success and to follow through.
Part 3 makes it exceptionally clear the role self-love plays in operating a successful business. See you soon.
About The Author
Harvey Rosenberg is an inspirational Personal Development Coach with a compassionate heart, trusting smile and a tool box of cutting edge techniques for your self-esteem improvement.
He has transformed himself from being the king of self-destruction his first 39 years, to the prince of recovery for 16 years, and presently the apprentice of joy for the last 6 years.
He recently authored a highly acclaimed self-help, self-esteem improvement book HeartMinders: Spiritual Lightposts Reminding Your Heart to Love.