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Make Me Feel Important

By Jamie Jefferson

"Everyone has an invisible sign hanging from their neck saying,

'Make me feel important.' Never forget this message when

working with people." -- Mary Kay Ash

If practiced, this could be one of the most life-changing pieces

of advice. In any relationship, whether it's a spouse, child,

client, colleague, or casual acquaintance, the best way to make

a lasting impression is to take the time to make others feel

genuinely valued.

Here are four tips to help you make others feel more important.

1. Greet everyone you meet with enthusiasm. Have you ever

called someone on the telephone - or met them somewhere -- and

they greeted you with such energy and enthusiasm that you felt

they must truly adore you? A greeting of ardent and genuine

enthusiasm sets the tone for your entire encounter. It's such

a simple skill (the hardest part is remembering to do it) but

if you CAN remember, it will enliven all of your relationships.

This skill can be particularly life-changing when practiced

with your children. A simple show of enthusiasm and appreciation

when a child walks in the room can have a miraculous

effect on the relationship.

2. Slow down. Take the time in conversation to really listen.

While someone is talking, focus on taking in what he or she is

saying in words, tone, and body language instead of thinking

about what you are going to say next. Relax and listen before

responding. As you practice this form of deep listening, work

on identifying the other person's needs. Put your own needs

aside during the conversation and focus on determining what

*they* need today. Imagine that each encounter is like a brief

interlude in what may otherwise be a hectic day. Slow down and

savor the connection you can make with another person, even

in a casual conversation.

3. Work on remembering the details of past conversations and

encounters. Ask about the things they confided to you. How did

her business presentation go? How is his ailing father? It's

often helpful to make little notes to remind you to ask about

something or someone the next time you meet. This simple skill

shows people that they are important to you.

4. Appreciate the small things that people do for you and never

pass up an opportunity to say thank you. It doesn't have to be

anything fancy...a few kind words or even a simple note is plenty.

Find simple and small ways to show appreciation and caring to those

you love. Maybe it's bringing home takeout when your spouse has been

home all day with a sick child. Maybe it's making a quick phone call

to your mother. As you go through your day, be thinking of how you

can take a step toward recognition and appreciation.

When you make the people around you feel important, you create a

climate of trust and mutual appreciation, which can change your

life in ways large and small. Try it today.

About The Author
Copyright 2006 Jamie Jefferson

Jamie Jefferson is a successful online entrepreneur.


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