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The Top Seven Reasons People Break Their New Year's Resolutions

By Stephen Kraus

Have you broken your New Year's resolution yet?

If so, you aren't alone. Studies suggest that 20% of resolutions

are broken within the first week of January. At least 80% are

broken within one year, and the actual figure is probably much

higher.

But the big question is: Why?

An even bigger question: What can we do about it?

In this article, we'll explore the top seven reasons for

breaking resolutions, and proven science-based techniques

for avoiding them.

==> #1. All-or-none thinking.

"Resolutions" set us up for failure by luring us into all-or-

none thinking. Most people think in terms of "keeping" their

resolutions, or "breaking" them.

Thinking in black-or-white terms of "success" or "failure" can be

fun as long as you are making good progress. But the joy of

feeling like a "pure success" soon fades with the first minor

setback, and you plunge into feeling like a total failure.

In other words, all-or-none thinking leads to the next cause of

breaking resolutions: the snowball effect.

==> #2. The snowball effect.

We've all experienced the snowball effect: letting a minor lapse

snowball into a major relapse and a total collapse. Because

all-or-none thinking is a major factor, it happens to resolution-

makers all the time.

D'ieters frequently suffer from the snowball effect as well,

because they typically think in terms of being "on" their d'iet,

or "off" it. Any little setback leads them to think that they

have "broken" it, and they pig out.

==> #3. Overlooking progress, and dwelling on setbacks.

The "law of effect" is the most fundamental law in psychology.

It's simple: actions followed by rewards are strengthened and

likely to recur.

It seems obvious, but most people do just the opposite. Study

after study has shown people who try -- and fail -- to make life

changes self-reward too little, and self-punish too much.

Resolutions-makers (and d'ieters) do this all the time. After

two weeks of healthy eating and exercise, for example, they have

an ice cream cone. But instead of rewarding themselves for two

weeks of solid progress, they beat themselves up over their minor

setback.

==> #4. No plan (& bad goal setting & we forget)

These reasons all go together, and they all have the same root

cause.

Most people resolve to do X in the coming year, and don't think

much beyond that. But an annual resolution is too far in the

future to be motivating. You won't be inspired to take action,

or to make a plan and follow through. And because such a distant

goal simply won't show up on your "radar screen," you'll soon

forget about it. Until next New Year's.

Instead, studies show that resolution-keepers use the proven

principles for setting goals that will keep them focused,

motivated and confident.

==> #5. The "nice-to-keep" syndrome

Let's face it -- for most people, their resolution is a "nice-

to-keep," not a "need-to-keep."

Sure, they'd like to be fit, or quit smoking, or have better

relationships, or whatever. But by January 7th, they get focused

on issues that are supposedly more "pressing," or get bogged down

"putting out fires." Their longer-term, nice-to-have goals keep

getting put on the back burner, and are soon forgotten.

Resolution-keepers do it differently.

They use a variety of commitment-enhancing and pre-commitment

strategies that ensure they avoid the "nice-to-keep" syndrome.

They find ways to keep themselves accountable, and follow

through on the things that are truly important to them.

==> #6. No Vision (& not understanding the all-important "why")

The motivating power of any goal comes from truly understanding

*why* you want it. But most resolution-makers don't think

through their underlying motivations.

Just wanting to l'ose ten p'ounds for its own sake may be a fine

goal, but it won't be enough to motivate you when you have to

make sacrifices or suffer a setback.

But you'll have that motivation if you know that getting in

shape will mean having more stamina for playing with your kids,

or going on a big hiking trip with your friends.

As Antoine de Saint-Exupery once put it: "If you want to build a

ship, don't drum up people to collect wood and don't assign them

tasks and work, but rather teach them to long for the endless

immensity of the sea." Clarify your Vision, and motivation will come.

==> #7. Not enough action.

All of the "small" reasons for not keeping resolutions add up

to one big reason: not enough action.

Most people know what to do in order to keep their resolution.

They have the blueprint for success. But they don't take

sufficient action.

There's no great secret to weight loss success - just burn off

more calories than you take in. Eat more vegetables, watch

your portion sizes, and exercise more (studies have shown

that weight loss maintainers average one hour of exercise

per day!). It's not hard to figure out. It's just hard to do

it, and maintain these lifestyle changes over the long-term.

Most people start out OK, but don't take sufficient action

to make cement their new habits, and make their life changes

permanent.

About The Author
Harvard-trained psychologist Dr. Stephen Kraus separates the science of success from self-help snake oil.


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