Responding or Reacting, Which Should I Choose?
By Arthur Buchanan
What should I do respond or react? Responding is positive and reacting is negative. When you choose to respond to situation you stop and think what your next move should be. When you react, you make a quick judgment and sometimes choose wrong thing to do. Now which do you think you should use more often, responding or reacting?
When you stop and think about it responding is much more effective and shall give you more positive results than negative ones. If you choose to react to situation you'll find that you get more negative results than positive, why because you don't take time to think you just react. Someone pulls out in front of you in a car, and you start to beep your horn, not knowing if this will make that person mad or not, and we all know that in this day and age road rage is very common.
Now if we would have chosen to do nothing and just sit back and take a deep breath and think about the situation. Then decide that we were not going to get mad and that we where just going to let it go, and this entire move saves our life because the guy driving the other car would have gotten so mad he could chase us down and killed you.
I know this is in extreme example but it does happen, and people are killed every day for far less. That is one example why we should respond instead of react. Reacting breeds anger, hate, and feelings that are negative, responding may not always breed love but by what it does do, it gives us a chance to think about the situation and then decide what makes the most sense and what we have really wanted to do.
This will in turn help us to make the right decision. So now which do you think, you should choose responding or reacting the choice IS yours. That is one example of why you should respond instead of react. Responding breeds love and happiness, and the people that choose responding shall by far be the happier more loving person and shall go farther in this world.
People that choose reacting have less control over themselves and the judgments that they make, and will surely end up paying for it with the roadblocks in this life. How do I learn to respond? Good question, when something happens to you any kind of stuff that makes you mad, stop take a deep breath and try to understand what you think you should do and take each action that you so choose.
What can be the possible outcomes of all your choices, and then with a clear head choose the one that best fits your situation and choose it. You will find that doing this helps to make the right decision many more times than reacting ever could. Is this easier learned or said then done? It Is very hard when someone makes you mad or someone pulls out right in front of you in your car, it's hard to learn not to respond instead of react, but with practice you can stop and think about your decision and how it makes you feel and act accordingly.
This just takes practice, is very achievable, and in the end shall make you a much happier person and that is what we are trying to achieve. What should I choose responding or reacting? I can tell you from experience that your life will be much more difficult if you choose reacting instead of responding, you will have a lot less fun and that you will have trouble at every corner possible.
You will not stop and think about your decisions, you would just go ahead and react, and this breeds negativity, which is always bad. Do you want to make your life tougher, than it needs to be, or would you like happiness calmness and peace, love, happiness, and joy? I can tell you and can assure you that responding instead of reacting will help you to reach your goals quicker and you will have far fewer setbacks and this is what we want in our quest in Building The Perfect You.
So which are you like? Responding or reacting the choice IS yours you decide what best fits your life and what will further your life and make it better, easier, and more fun to enjoy what is going on around you.
The choice is up to you decide which is that you want responding, which is positive, or reacting, which is negative. I would surely hope that you would choose responding because the benefits are endless and you shall never be happier than when you will ever be in the responding mode, so please choose responding because reacting only breeds negativity pain hurting and the wrong decisions.
To respond is positive, to react is negative, and I believe if you look around today, you will clearly see that most people react, and you see the shape that the world is in. I must also point out that the people that are successful and make a mark in this world are the kind that respond and will go farther and succeed more often than the people that react.
So if you are not where you want to be in this life stop the and look and see if you are responding or reacting, because if you are not where you want to be, it could be just because you have been reacting instead of responding. So now is the time to start responding and throw away your old self, hide the reacting, put it is far back in your mind as you can and push responding to the front. You will find that your life is much more successful and it is much more meaningful this way and I am sure that you can see that responding not reacting is a way to go, don't you agree?
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