Romance Your Goals: Seven Secrets for SMARTER Goal Setting
By Ed Sykes
It's that time of the year when you are motivated and ready
to take on the whole world. You know you need to set goals,
but in the past you have set goals with mixed results.
However, this year will be different. This year you will be S-
M-A-R-T-E-R to romance your goal setting.
Romance your goals? What am I talking about? Think
about a great romance you are experiencing or did
experience. What makes or made your romance great?
Passion. Well, we are going to create passion for your goals
by applying these techniques so that you will achieve more
The following are seven secrets to romance your goals for
When you were searching for romance, you had a specific
idea of what type of person excited you. Suppose someone
asked you, "What would this person look like? or "What
qualities or attributes are important to you? Most likely you
could, with out even blinking an eye, describe what type of
person would excite you. In other words, what person would
create passion in you? You probably visualized how this
person looked, sounded, acted, and even smelled. Because
you visualized this mate, "You would know it when you saw
Apply the same techniques to your goal setting. Take the
time to visualize exactly what you want to accomplish. Take
a few minutes, find a quiet place, relax, close your eyes, and
think about what you want to accomplish in life. What is it
and what does it feel like? The more senses you involve in
your visualization, the more real it becomes, and the more
passion you have concerning your goals. The more detail
Know what you want!
In a romantic situation, the question is, "What is the next
step? or "Where is this relationship going? or "Where are
we going to be? As in a romance, you need to be able to
answer the following questions:
* What are the steps along the way to accomplishing my
* How do I keep track of the steps I've accomplished?
* What will happen when I accomplish each step?
Make sure your goals can be measured so that you know
whether you are on track or behind and what appropriate
actions you need to take to stay on track.
In a great romance, you are always working to take the
actions to further the relationship. You buy flowers, go to
the movies or a concert, or take some action that furthers the
romance. In goal setting, what actions do you need to take
to achieve your goals? Are these actions tangible? Are you
clear on what steps to take when progressing to achieving
your goals? Document the actions needed, take the action,
and document that you took the action.
Great romances have realistic expectations about the
direction in which they are going. The romances last
because they are realistic in terms of values, perceptions,
Are you realistic with your goals? You may want to make
$20 billion by the end of this year. Is that realistic? Most
likely not since that depends on your resources, experience,
confidence, network, etc. Work on your baby steps. For
example, if you made $50k last year working for an
organization, you may say, "I want to make $75k by
December 31st of this year." Is that possible? What actions
do you need to take? Would you need a promotion or
overtime? Are you thinking of starting a part-time business?
Once we start asking these questions, we will come away
with the realistic answers for setting goals.
5. Time Sensitive
Great romances are time sensitive. The people involved are
excited about their relationship and are sensitive about the
time needed to accomplish their "love goals."
It is important that you make your goals time sensitive.
What are the deadlines to accomplish your goals? Make
sure you break your deadlines into smaller time lines or
events so that your goals are more manageable and realistic.
By setting time lines, you will have constant feedback to
gauge where you are along the path to accomplishing your
In a great romance, each partner is encouraging each other to
improve themselves, to do better, and to believe in
themselves. They are excited about the romance and are
inspired to take their relationship to the next level, even
through the ups and downs of life.
What inspires or excites you with the goals you want to
achieve? Is it a good feeling, a new sense of confidence,
encouraging? Use the positive energy and thoughts to fight
through challenges you may encounter along the way to
achieving your goals.
Great romances are very rewarding. The rewards may be the
love of another person, peace of mind, finding a soul mate,
How rewarding are your goals? Once taking the steps to
achieve them or achieving them, what rewards will you
receive? What financial, spiritual, health, educational, family,
community, career, and business rewards will you receive?
At each step to achieving your goal, what reward will you
give yourself? It's okay; I encourage you to give yourself
an award or pat yourself on the back for achieving your
goals. It could be as simple as renting a movie, going to
dinner, or playing inspirational music. But the important
point is to reward yourself.
Use these tips to romance and create passion for SMARTER
goals and you will achieve what you want.
About The Author
Ed Sykes is a professional speaker, author, and success
coach in the areas of leadership, motivation, stress
management, customer service, and team building. You can
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