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Romance Your Goals: Seven Secrets for SMARTER Goal Setting

By Ed Sykes

It's that time of the year when you are motivated and ready

to take on the whole world. You know you need to set goals,

but in the past you have set goals with mixed results.

However, this year will be different. This year you will be S-

M-A-R-T-E-R to romance your goal setting.

Romance your goals? What am I talking about? Think

about a great romance you are experiencing or did

experience. What makes or made your romance great?

Passion. Well, we are going to create passion for your goals

by applying these techniques so that you will achieve more

in life.

The following are seven secrets to romance your goals for


1. Specific

When you were searching for romance, you had a specific

idea of what type of person excited you. Suppose someone

asked you, "What would this person look like? or "What

qualities or attributes are important to you? Most likely you

could, with out even blinking an eye, describe what type of

person would excite you. In other words, what person would

create passion in you? You probably visualized how this

person looked, sounded, acted, and even smelled. Because

you visualized this mate, "You would know it when you saw


Apply the same techniques to your goal setting. Take the

time to visualize exactly what you want to accomplish. Take

a few minutes, find a quiet place, relax, close your eyes, and

think about what you want to accomplish in life. What is it

and what does it feel like? The more senses you involve in

your visualization, the more real it becomes, and the more

passion you have concerning your goals. The more detail

the better.

Know what you want!

2. Measurable

In a romantic situation, the question is, "What is the next

step? or "Where is this relationship going? or "Where are

we going to be? As in a romance, you need to be able to

answer the following questions:

* What are the steps along the way to accomplishing my


* How do I keep track of the steps I've accomplished?

* What will happen when I accomplish each step?

Make sure your goals can be measured so that you know

whether you are on track or behind and what appropriate

actions you need to take to stay on track.

3. Action-Oriented

In a great romance, you are always working to take the

actions to further the relationship. You buy flowers, go to

the movies or a concert, or take some action that furthers the

romance. In goal setting, what actions do you need to take

to achieve your goals? Are these actions tangible? Are you

clear on what steps to take when progressing to achieving

your goals? Document the actions needed, take the action,

and document that you took the action.

4. Realistic

Great romances have realistic expectations about the

direction in which they are going. The romances last

because they are realistic in terms of values, perceptions,

finances, etc.

Are you realistic with your goals? You may want to make

$20 billion by the end of this year. Is that realistic? Most

likely not since that depends on your resources, experience,

confidence, network, etc. Work on your baby steps. For

example, if you made $50k last year working for an

organization, you may say, "I want to make $75k by

December 31st of this year." Is that possible? What actions

do you need to take? Would you need a promotion or

overtime? Are you thinking of starting a part-time business?

Once we start asking these questions, we will come away

with the realistic answers for setting goals.

5. Time Sensitive

Great romances are time sensitive. The people involved are

excited about their relationship and are sensitive about the

time needed to accomplish their "love goals."

It is important that you make your goals time sensitive.

What are the deadlines to accomplish your goals? Make

sure you break your deadlines into smaller time lines or

events so that your goals are more manageable and realistic.

By setting time lines, you will have constant feedback to

gauge where you are along the path to accomplishing your


6. Encouraging

In a great romance, each partner is encouraging each other to

improve themselves, to do better, and to believe in

themselves. They are excited about the romance and are

inspired to take their relationship to the next level, even

through the ups and downs of life.

What inspires or excites you with the goals you want to

achieve? Is it a good feeling, a new sense of confidence,

encouraging? Use the positive energy and thoughts to fight

through challenges you may encounter along the way to

achieving your goals.

7. Rewarding

Great romances are very rewarding. The rewards may be the

love of another person, peace of mind, finding a soul mate,


How rewarding are your goals? Once taking the steps to

achieve them or achieving them, what rewards will you

receive? What financial, spiritual, health, educational, family,

community, career, and business rewards will you receive?

At each step to achieving your goal, what reward will you

give yourself? It's okay; I encourage you to give yourself

an award or pat yourself on the back for achieving your

goals. It could be as simple as renting a movie, going to

dinner, or playing inspirational music. But the important

point is to reward yourself.

Use these tips to romance and create passion for SMARTER

goals and you will achieve what you want.

About The Author
Ed Sykes is a professional speaker, author, and success

coach in the areas of leadership, motivation, stress

management, customer service, and team building. You can

e-mail him at, or call him at

(757) 427-7032. Go to his web site,, and signup for the newsletter,

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Stress Secrets for the Busy Professional," or "Secrets of

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