Dangerous Curves Ahead
By Rhonda Hull
What is the first thing that crosses your mind when you see a road sign depicting a curvy road ahead? Fear that the road will be too difficult? Annoyed that you need to slow down and use caution? Or, do you think, "Cool! I might as well enjoy the scenery"it will be spectacular."
Life is full of curves. Sometimes it is our own curves that inspired us to start a regular workout and take the next step in our self-care adventure. Our lives seldom travel in a smooth, straight line, and they wouldn't be nearly as much fun if they did. So how we choose to face the curves ahead will make a big difference in the quality of our journey.
Yes, I said choose! Accompanying every circumstance is a fork in the road. It is here that we choose to travel down the Road to Reaction or the Road to Response-ability. At this point we either react as a victim of life's twists and turns expecting more potholes or to respond to life willingly with the intention necessary to create our own happiness.
Even in the worst of situations we can take a different "highway with our thinking, choosing to turn the unexpected into a scenic route. Determined to find the benefit can make even a challenging situation more worthwhile and enjoyable. According to the Law of Attraction, what you focus on you create more of, so shifting our attention onto seeing the best in the worst welcomes happiness.
For others, we may take the curvy path but complain the whole way! Or worse yet, we become a back seat driver and blame everyone else for whatever isn't working in our life. Instead of whining about how slow we have to go or how steep the grade, how about oohing and ahhing at the scenery? Or even taking the time to stop at a vista point and admire the higher perspective?
With anything that dares to take us out of our comfort zone, many of us react and "shift into reverse", "grind our gears or "put on the brakes all together. Our resistance (despair, low self-esteem, and fear, fill-in-the-blank) causes us to miss opportunities. Instead, we are far more fuel-efficient with our energy when we are willing to embrace each challenge with a open heart, authentic, and taking life easy as it comes.
Have you ever met someone who has a good attitude even on the curviest and roughest roads that life puts before them? Someone who loves to take the winding back roads instead of the freeway? They"ve learned the art of appreciating the unexpected detours on the journey, and are not just driven to reach the destination.
Remember as a child being in the backseat on a road trip obsessively asking, "Are we there yet? Curves are easier to handle when you realize that there is no "there there, and that joy is yours by consciously seizing each precious present moment of the journey grateful for the mystery of the adventure.
On the curvy path of life, we never really know what's around the next bend. If we spend our time worrying about what's next, we miss the beauty of what's right in front of us. Keep in mind that never once in the history of the Universe has worry ever changed an outcome! It is important to enjoy the ride, drive with care, and remember to slow down enough to appreciate each curve we're on"because we'll never be in quite that same spot again.
Signs of happiness are everywhere if we open our eyes to see them. Just as rain can be perceived as a slippery nuisance or as a free car wash, the Curves Ahead sign can be seen as an obstacle or an adventure"or a reminder that it's time to go to you visit your local Curves for a workout!
Remember, life is a journey, not a destination. Curves are certain, our body is a wonderful vehicle, and suffering is optional. In Joy it all.
Women have long had a history of loving others more than we love ourselves, so taking that initial step to create health and balance in our life through a regular exercise program is a big one. Many of us figure that if we are going to make that commitment we might as well do it up big. As an unconscious self-sabotage, we expect big changes too fast, create unrealistic goals, and exercise as if there were no tomorrow"for about a week, maybe two. We soon run out of gas and try for a short cut, and before we know it we are back in our comfort zone with our self-criticism as our only companion.
Happiness is an inside job. So much of what we experience and create in our outer life is created by the quality of our inner conversation. It is our thoughts that shape our reality more than our outside circumstances. And yet so many of us blame the circumstances in our life for our unhappiness or expect happiness to come from the outside-in.
Success does not come by over-committing to too many big steps, insuring setbacks. It does not come by taking more steps backward than frontward supported by a trunk full of excuses. Success comes in consistent small steps, recognizing your choice points, and by having a gentle and encouraging inner conversation with yourself.
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Rhonda Hull, Ph.D.
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