Excuse Me...Your Life Is Waiting
By Doreen Banszak
What if one day you were minding your own business
when someone tapped you on the shoulder and said,
"Excuse me, your life is waiting. It's right over
there and in it you have all that you ever desired.
You have financial freedom, the job of your dreams
or the business you always wanted. All of your
relationships are strong, loving and beneficial.
You are strong, sure of yourself and happier than
you've ever dared to imagine."
You might say, "Show me the way!" and the person
would, but of course there is a price...
You would need to leave behind all of your fears,
jealousies, thoughts of separateness, anxieties,
anger, frustrations, limiting beliefs. Could you
do it? Could you shed all of these and walk toward
what you say you REALLY want?
Now, if you are reading this article, clearly you
are the one doing the tapping and deep down you know
exactly what you need to do to get from here to there.
So why aren't you doing it? Start by asking yourself
how you are feeling. That's right, how are you
All the feelings in the world roll up to just two, you
either feel good or you feel bad. There really is no
in between because the absence of good is bad and
the absence of bad is good.
When was the last time you came up with a solution to
a problem when you were feeling scared or frustrated?
When you are feeling these things your thoughts are
locked on the fear, not the potential solution.
So how can you expect to create the life you want if
you are constantly having thoughts that serve and
maintain your fears?
There are 4 steps you can follow that will break you out
of the fear and into the possibility of having the
life experience you really want.
Know What You Don't Want
Part of the reason we are fearful is because we are not
clear on what it is that we really want. Crazy as it
sounds, for a lot of us, it is much easier to come up
with what we don't want than what we do want. Take a few
minutes and jot down, in list format, what you really
Know What You Do Want
Take your don't wants and simply flip them into do wants.
For example, "I don't want to travel so much for work"
becomes "I only want to travel once a month for work."
As you go through your list, notice how you are starting
to feel better and be more hopeful.
Get Into the "Feeling" Place of Your Want
Now that you have started to shift your attention away
from what you don't want onto what you do want, you can't
help but feel better. Now you want to take that feeling
and expand it. Phrase your do want in the present, as though
you already have it...
"I am traveling once a month for work now. I love having
this extra time to spend with my family. I am much more
involved in my kid's lives and it feels good to know that I am
contributing more around the house. My customers are even
more satisfied because now I meet with them weekly by phone
in addition to my monthly visit. I am very pleased with these
results and we still get miles for our trips to Disney World!"
Allow It To Happen
The first thing we do, when we get clear on what it is we
really want, is try to make it happen as soon as possible.
This step is all about allowing, not forcing your desire
to happen. You have already started doing this by taking
your attention off of what you don't want which already
has started to allow thoughts and ideas on how to make it
When you force, you are in fear mode and remember what we said,
not living in fear is part of the price you pay for having
what you want. The best indication that you are headed
in the right direction is again how you feel. If it feels
good, go for it! If it feels bad, avoid it!
So there you have it, the key to having what you want
in life. Are you ready to use it?
About The Author
Doreen Banaszak is a coach, teacher and the author of the
upcoming book, "Excuse Me, Your Life Is RIGHT Now", the
follow-up to Lynn Grabhorn's New York Times Best Seller,
"Excuse Me, Your Life Is Waiting".
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