Respect 'How to teach it and how to show it.
One of the most important things you can teach your child is
Keep in mind that respect is not the same as obedience. Children
might obey because they are afraid. If they respect you, they
will obey because they know you want what's best for them.
The best way to teach respect is to show respect. When a child
experiences respect, they know what it feels like and begin to
understand how important it is.
Keep in mind the saying 'Do unto others as you would have them do
Respect is an attitude. Being respectful helps a child succeed in
life. If children don't have respect for peers, authority, or
themselves, it's almost impossible for them to succeed.
A respectful child takes care of belongings and responsibilities,
and a respectful child gets along with peers.
Schools teach children about respect, but parents have the most
influence on how respectful children become. Until children show
respect at home, it's unlikely they will show it anywhere else.
How can you show respect to your child?
Be honest 'If you do something wrong, admit it and apologize.
Be positive 'Don't embarrass, insult or make fun of your child.
Be Trusting 'Let your child make choices and take
Be fair 'Listen to your child's side of the story before
reaching a conclusion.
Be polite 'Use 'please' and 'thank you'. Knock before entering
your child's room.
Be reliable 'Keep promises. Show your child that you mean what
Be a good listener 'Give your child your full attention.
Children learn from everything we say and do. Make sure that you
are modeling respectful behavior. Some of things you can do are:
Obey laws 'Follow rules.
Be caring 'Show concern for people, animals and the environment.
Avoid poor role models 'When you see examples of disrespect,
When you set rules at home, explain to your child why the rule is
important. For instance, if the rule is 'No TV between 4:00 and
6:00' it is because this is homework time and homework is
important to keep grades up in school.
Teach your child to respect themselves. Self-respect is one of
the most important forms of respect. Once we respect ourselves,
it is easier to respect others.
Your opinion means a lot to your child. If you believe your child
can succeed, they will believe they can as well.
Build their independence. Give them responsibilities as soon as
they can handle them.
Help them set and achieve goals. Their self-respect will
skyrocket when they see themselves achieving those goals.
Encourage honesty. Let your child know that they may be able to
fool some people, but they can't fool themselves. There is no
pride in stealing, cheating, or lying.
Most importantly, show love! Say 'I love you' often and give
plenty of hugs and kisses.
If your child makes a mistake, remind them that they are still
Age affects children's respect. Children and adults deserve
respect at every age. Here is a guideline based on age:
Babies 'They are too young to show respect but when you meet
their needs, they learn to trust you. This helps as they get
older because respect for authority is based on trust.
Toddlers 'They are old enough to learn to say 'please' and
- thank you'.
Preschoolers 'This is a good time to teach rules and
Elementary age 'They show the most respect for adults who make
fair rules. It helps to let them have a say in the rules that
they are expected to follow.
Middle and High Schoolers 'Allow them to show independence, such
as clothing or hairstyles, but make sure you have guidelines.
They will appreciate the respect you are showing them. We
respect you and the incredible job that you have, being a parent.
Have a great day!
About the Author
Steve and Lisa McChesney publish a
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