How To Teach Your Children Calmness and Peaceability
I find the world today far too loud and too noisy. Everyone is talking louder and louder, trying to be heard. Everyone need something. The only way to get someone's attention is to yell louder than they are yelling. All these lead to people getting easily frustrated, angry and for some, violence. There is a need for more calmness and peacefulness.
Unknown to many people, the loud noises from TV programme (e.g. car chases, gun shots, murder, soap opera drama), rock music, traffic on the road, screaming from adults and children etc often cause a lot of imbalance to our emotion and sometime lead to unnecessary conflicts with other people.
A person who is calm and peaceful tend to be more accommodating rather argumentative. He often has the ability to understand how others feel rather than simply reacting to them. He is better in controlling his temper.
We need to teach our children calmness and peacefulness which provide them the security. Ability to maintain peace and control our temper is a very powerful and important value that is largely to produce love and create a harmonious home and work place. Understanding is the key. Children who are taught to try to be understand why things happen and why people behave in certain way at certain time will become calmer, and better in control. They will also have better relationship with people.
Peaceability means understanding, calmness, patience, control and accommodation. They are the opposite of anger, losing one's temper, impatience and irritation. Peaceability does not mean the elimination or ignoring of emotion but rather to control them and to prevent them from causing hurt to other people. Calmness and peaceability help others and ourselves feel better and feel to work better with one another. They are important values and contagious in nature. As you develop and demonstrate these qualities within you, other people will "catch" them or be influenced by you too, especially your children.
Here are some general guideline to teach your children calmness and peaceability:
Create a Peaceful Environment at Home. You can improve calmness in your home by:
- Playing restful music e.g. classical and baroque music such as Vivaldi's Four Seasons, Handel's Water Music and Johann Pachelbel's Canon in D. These music create a feeling of relaxation, order and peace. They also help to concentrate better and being more creative in the things we do.
- Switch off the TV and invest the time with your children and spouse, talking and listening to what they have to say about their day in school, at work or at home. If you do this regular enough, your relationship with your family also improve tremendously. There is a greater sense of closeness among you.
- Controlling the tone and decibel level of your own voice. Do not yell as yelling destroy a peaceful atmosphere.
- Touching others in your family when you talk to them e.g. put on a shoulder or arm as your speak to someone. Look at their eyes when you are talking to them also help.
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Article by Alvin Poh, founder of Learning Champ, a parenting wesbite that provides information and resources to parents, who want to help their children develop the important skills and mind set for a brighter future -> http://www.learningchamp.com