Robert Elias Najemy
In order to create the healthy, happy and harmonious reality we all desire, we will need to create emotional harmony.
This process can be divided into six basic steps:
1. Recognize our emotions.
2. Accept them as they are.
3. Release them when necessary.
4. Understand how they are created.
5. Transform the negative ones through understanding and create more positive ones.
6. Transcend them.
Here we will present a short profile of some of the basic emotions. We have developed specific questionnaires for understanding each one.
Answering those questions will help you discover how those emotions are created and how you might transform them.
ANXIETY AND WORRY
Anxiety and worry, although obviously forms of fear, have become so common that it is worth looking at them separately.
Anxiety often concerns the factors of time and results. We are anxious because we fear that we will not have enough time to complete all that we have planned, or that the result will not be successful, perfect or acceptable to the others.
We worry often for the same reasons, but also when we fear something may not turn out as we hope. That "something" may concern ourselves, our children, or our parents or spouse, which of course, ultimately, through our attachment to these people, has to do with ourselves.
We learn to worry as children, and this becomes a habit causing us to search for issues to be anxious or worrisome about, even when there is nothing really important enough to merit such a concern.
We may wonder at times why our mind thinks so much about a particular matter, creating anxiety and worry, when in reality that matter is not so important to us.
Anxiety and worry contain a feeling of danger, that we are unable to achieve what we want or protect ourselves from others or events. It is a form of self-doubt and lack of faith in ourselves, others and the Divine Laws of the universe.
For this reason, we would do well to employ a daily program of:
2. Breathing techniques
3. Deep relaxation with positive projection,
5. A healthy diet
6. Creative self-expression.
These activities will help reorganize our energy patterns, freeing us from the hold of negative thoughts.
Positive antidotes to anxiety and worry could be:
1. Faith in divine wisdom and justice; that all will occur as is necessary and beneficial for our growth process. This belief allows us to surrender to the wisdom of the universe and feel secure even when externally we are being challenged by difficult situations.
This does not mean that we do not seek to create the reality we prefer, but simply that we feel sure that the results of our efforts will be the best for our growth regardless of whether they are what we prefer.
2. Confidence in our ability to deal with whatever life brings us.
Why should we doubt that we can deal with whatever comes? We have encountered so many tests in life, and here we are? alive and reading this. We have survived. We, as spirit, are greater than any possible human experience.
3. Realizing that we are worthy of love and acceptance as we are.
Much of our anxiety has to do with our doubts about our self-worth which we tend to measure by what others think and by the results of our efforts. Accepting ourselves as we are removes much anxiety.
4. Living in and enjoying the present moment.
Our fears, regrets, anxiety and worry seldom have to do with the present, but rather with the past and future. But neither actually exist. The past exists only to the degree that we carry it in our minds. The future is equally an illusion.
Focusing on what we are doing in the present moment releases us from anxiety and worry.
(Adapted from the "The Psychology of Happiness" by Robert Najemy available at http://www.Amazon.com.
Robert Elias Najemy is the author of over 600 articles, 400 lecture cassettes on Human Harmony and 20 books, which have sold over 100,000 copies.
He is the Founder and director of the Center for Harmonious Living in Greece with 3700 members.
His book The Psychology of Happiness; ISBN 0-9710116-0-5 is available at www.amazon.com.