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The Discipline Stick and Kindness

By Jean Tracy

I remember one dad who made his 11-year old son dig his own grave in their backyard. No one remembers what wrong the son had done. Everyone remembers his dad's discipline. One mother beat and cursed her daughter shouting, "I wish you were never born." Do you ever wonder if your discipline crosses the line? To find out, let's imagine a Discipline Stick. It's shaped like a ruler. It's effective and it doesn't spank hands.

One side of the Discipline Stick measures Kindness. It numbers from one to ten. The numbers from 1-3 represents Not kind. The grave-digging dad and the cursing mom disciplined in the Not Kind zone.

The opposite end of the Discipline Stick at 8, 9, and 10 measures Too Kind. Parents who spoil their kids with kindness create tyrants. Their actions are definitely, Too Kind.

Not Kind and Too Kind can be measured by:

The sound of your voice

The look on your face

The words you say

The emotions you feel

The actions you take

Not Kind: (numbers 1-3)

Speaks in an angry voice

Looks hateful

Feels rage

Says cruel things

Takes harmful actions

Too Kind: (numbers 8-10)

Speaks without authority

Looks beaten

Feels powerless

Says "Yes" when "No" is best

Forgets to be the parent

Just Right: (numbers 4-7)

Just Right sits in the middle of the Discipline Stick. It enshrines the wide middle road between Not Kind and Too Kind. To parent Just Right ask yourself this powerful question, "How can I be both Kind and Firm?"

You can remind yourself to be Kind and Firm with your very own Discipline Stick Laminated Bookmark. Visit our Online Store: Book and Products. You'll find it included with the 21-Day Calendars.

The Wrap-Up:

Child Protective Services took care of the grave digging dad.

The cursing mom kept cursing.

Her daughter vowed never to hit or curse at her children. She kept her vow.

If you discipline toward either extreme, you can change.

To parent Just Right before disciplining your kids, ask yourself this powerful question,

"How can I be both Kind and Firm?"

About The Author
Jean Tracy, MSS invites you to sign up for her FREE Parenting Newsletter. Learn powerful parenting concepts that you can use right now! Informative articles written by this seasoned therapist with the tips and tools you must use to raise your awesome kids with solid characters. Download her FREE bonding activities when you subscribe at:

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