12 Commandments for Parents
By Annette Lucas
An important factor in a child's education is the parents'
expertise for this "job". No one is born holding all the
knowledge, but we can learn and understand some things from
books or advice from qualified persons.
Among the commandments a parent should strictly follow are
1. Do not underestimate your child - he can understand more
than you think he does and if you make him believe you
think poorly of him this might affect his development.
2. Don't use threat - a child loves a challenge and once
threatened he might probably go on and do what he wasn't
suppose to just to see if he can escape the punishment.
3. Do not bribe your child - if you are trying to get him
to learn (work, be quiet, etc.) for money (candy, tv time,
etc.) he will fail to understand the importance of
learning, all he will get from this is the importance of
4. Do not make a small child promise something - small
children can't understand the concept of promises so don't
force them to lie and then punish them because they did.
5. Do not keep them on a short leash - to grow up normally
children need some space, some freedom and room to make
mistakes. Some of the biggest lessons we learn are from
the mistakes we've made in the past.
6. Do not use big words or too many words when you are
talking to your child - keep your ideas simple and concise
so he can understand every thing you have to say.
7. Do not expect immediate and blind obedience - it is not
recommended, a child needs to learn to think on his own not
to follow orders.
8. Do not indulge him too much - he needs to experience the
feelings of self-confidence and self-respect the rewards of
a "job well done" offer.
9. Do not compromise when it comes to the rules of a game -
the trick for a game to become educational is to have its
initial rules respected.
10. Don't impose rules that don't go with the age of your
11. Do not try to inflict guilt - guilt is not an
appropriate feeling for children, especially if they are
12. Don't give your child orders that you don't take
seriously - your child will try to please you and giving
him an order is drastic, and it becomes cruel if that order
is a joke.
All these "commandments" are addressed first to the parent.
But they are to be referred to by teachers and educators as
well. Along with the parents, they will instill an attitude
and strategy for the education and growth of the child, so
that they can give him all the things he needs to properly
develop emotional and physically.
About The Author
Annette Lucas is a stay at home mom who has quit her
factory job and will never look back. She believes we are
given one chance to watch our children grow up. For most
of us, the only choice is work from home. Annette is an
independent broker with AmeriPlanUSA.