When a Child is Born
By Carmel Baird
When your child is born, it is the most wonderful moment of
your life. No one can explain that feeling fully, and when
you first come home and that tiny bundle is wholly your
responsibility, that is an awesome feeling.
And that tiny bundle already has it's own mind and believe
it or not, knows just what he or she wants and right there
and then, without you realising it, sets about getting it.
We can do courses for so many things, get degrees in many
areas but have you noticed, there are no real courses or
degrees in Parenting, the most important job you will do in
your entire life.
That's why there are many articles written about various
areas of parenting from babes to teens. The experiences of
others may just help with our own concerns about our
children and how we are handling certain situations. These
articles let us know we are not alone and we are not the
only one to have a problem.
I remember when my daughter was in her early teens, we
suddenly has this once very happy, loving daughter,
exploding, stomping, flaring up for no real apparent reason
and calming down almost as fast. That was as long as we
didn't say anything, just let the exploding, stomping, etc
I kept thinking, it must be something I was doing or not
doing, then we received an invitation from her school to
participate in a Personal Development Program. Not knowing
just what was involved with this program we went along and
found out it was for just this very thing that had been
happpening with our daughter. and....we were not alone.
It was a great program as we did it with our daughter and
even though the highs and lows didn't go away, we knew we
were not alone. I know I had holes in my tongue from biting
on it, well not really, but I had to hold back on many
things I would normally have said something about. By doing
that, the moment would pass very quickly and my beautiful
daughter would be back to her normal self.
Her father called this time in her life the "galloping
hormones". There is so much going on, they don't
understand, their bodies are developing, they are not
children anymore and they are not adults either. It's like
a no man's land or no woman's land, time in their life,
very difficult and if we don't understand at least some of
what is going on, we can hinder more than help.
These kids are growing up faster today than when my daughter
was young. You know, we push and we shouldn't. From the
start, we are waiting for the first word, first step etc etc
etc then, I don't know about you but, when mine got to a
certain age, I wanted to put a brick on their head to slow
them down. The time was racing away and soon they would be
all grown up.
We only have them on loan, so we must look after them, they
are precious. Our influence alone is for but a very short
time. Unfortunately today, our influence time can be very
limited. If you have to go back to work and leave your
child in care, then while it's not your fault, your
influence is only the time you had with your child before
the "in care" time started.
I was fortunate, while we didn't have everything that opened
and shut in our home, we also didn't do without anything
important, I was able to spend the first 5 years of my
children's lives in the most important job I have ever done
and that was caring for them, being a Mum and I wouldn't
have missed it for anything.
Once they started school, the outside influences came in,
through teachers mainly. and....teachers are gospel,
especially to a 5 year old. (don't get me wrong, I'm not
putting down teachers, they are wonderful).So I was very
pleased to be able to have my influence, the values and
guidance I felt was important in life, instilled in my
chlidren from an early age, The time you are the sole
carer of your chlid is the only time you have to teach them
your values, what you hope for them and the type of person
you hope for them to grow up to be.
I started collecting these articles for Kids and Teens
Parenting so other parents can feel they are not alone. I
hope they will help you and if there is an area you would
like some information on, please let us know and I will
endeavour to find it for you.
We will keep adding downloadable e-books as we find them, so
even if it is 2am, you will be able to get help.
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