3 Little Mistakes That Could Cost You Your Marriage
Just because you and your spouse pledged to love and nurture each other through all your days, doesn't guarantee that your marriage will remain vital and strong. Here are 3 little mistakes that left unchecked could cost you your marriage.
Little Mistake #1 Not Hearing Your Spouses Plea For Attention
With many responsibilities pulling at us each day, it is easy to fall into a routine of life that may not include nurturing our relationship with our spouse.
As we fulfill our responsibilities at work, in our community and with our children, we may not always save some of our time and energy for our spouse. When this happens, our spouse will usually make a subtle plea to be notice and nurtured. If this subtle plea goes unnoticed, they may even make a more direct plea for attention.
If we assume that they know we love them and continue to spend our time and energies on these other efforts, we are sending a very clear message that these other responsibilities are more important to us than our relationship with our spouse.
It's critical to let our spouse now on a daily basis that we value our life and relationship with them.
It can be as simple as making sure they always get a passionate kiss on their way in and out of the house with a heart felt "I love you". However, it will also require making a conscious effort to include them in our busy life.
After all, our job, community efforts and children will only be a part of our life for a defined period of time, whereas our spouse will be with us for a life-time. Keep your priorities in order, and you will go far in avoiding "Little Mistake #1."
Little Mistake #2 Sharing Intimate, Personal Information With Someone Other Than Our Spouse
In many cases, the first step down the path of infidelity starts with individuals sharing intimate personal information with someone other than our spouse on a regular basis.
Either party could mistake this for feelings of intimacy, and secrecy only encourages this intimacy to grow. Personal, intimate discussions should be reserved for our spouse, it is only there that we will receive the best counsel from someone who deeply loves us and has our best interests as the heart of their desires.
Little Mistake #3 Harboring Ill Feelings About Your Spouse
There is nothing wrong with having less than loving feelings about your spouse when you've had a major disagreement. However, there is something wrong with harboring those ill feelings to the point of harming your relationship.
If these feelings are fed, they will grow into being critical about every aspect of our spouses imperfections. Following those times of disagreement, help yourself to calm down by reminding yourself of your spouse's many positive traits and you'll be surprised at how easily those loving feelings return.
By avoiding these "3 Little Mistakes", your marriage can remain strong and vital for a lifetime.
About the Author
Beth Young is the Senior Editor of the leading marriage advise web site, MarriageAdvise.com.