Sex and Lovemaking: Is There a Difference
By Jon Gammon
The big controversy, is the debate between sex and lovemaking. Most women will agree that there is definitely a difference. But what is the difference, most guys will look at you and say in that stupid guy talk, "Penetration is penetration!" Morons right. Well they are right and they are wrong. When talking about the penetration aspect of sex, yes both of you will engage in penetration at some point in time, so what defines the differences of sex and lovemaking. Well we will try to go over that right now.
Sex, when some think of sex they are thinking, WHAM BAMM! We are done mode. It is a quick toss in the sack before heading off to dinner and a movie. It is one of those passion moments, when there isn't a whole lot of foreplay and sensual touching involved. It is just that SEX. It is all the pleasures of both worlds, all wrapped up in to one word. While most women need the extra stimulation in order to achieve an orgasm, every once in a while they succumb to the man's desire to just get off. Of course there are a few women that can reach orgasm by intercourse alone, so it sort of benefits both parties. So, sex is just that plain ole sex. Nothing fancy, just intercourse.
Lovemaking, we are now getting into the nitty-gritty of sex. Lovemaking uses all the senses to help enhance the lovemaking experience. We are talking about foreplay, sensual touching, kissing, hugging, massaging. We are talking candles lit, bubble bath, soft music playing in the back ground, and two people truly into each other. Lovemaking is an essence, it's all the aspects of sex rolled up into one great evening of enjoy each other. It is the equally sharing of each others bodies to satisfy one another to the point of pleasurable bliss. Lovemaking is the whole night devoted to each other. Some like to think of it as the whole day as well.
So, depending on if you want a quick roll in the sack, or an evening of total ecstasy, you will have to chose between the two. Each has their pros and cons, plus it just depends on the mood you are in as well. Maybe you are not into lovemaking for that night, but want sex, or vise versa. What ever your choice, don't let sex die in your relationship. Keep it fresh and interesting, and a life time together learning each other is the ultimate lovemaking guide.