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Empty Nest - An End Or Just The Beginning?

By Ellen Neiley Ritter, Ph.D.

It's January. Your child's applications have finally been completed - you've survived the first part of the stressful college search. But for some reason, instead of feeling a sense of relief, you wake up with a sense of dread lurking somewhere in the back of your mind that you know has little to do with the four years of college bills you're about to face.

You probably thought it wouldn't hit until you drove away from the campus, leaving your son or daughter to fend for themselves for the first time, or when you got home and notice how quiet the house seems with one less person. But even now, months before, you're not sure you're ready, are plagued with questions about how you will fill the empty days or what it will mean for you.

Welcome to the beginning stages of the Empty Nest transition! Whether your child is soon heading off to college, getting married or moving to a new city, it's normal to feel some concern about what this means for your life. For the past 18 or more years, a large part of your identity, and on some days, probably all of your energy, have been devoted to meeting the needs of your children and that's about to change.

Empty nest transitions are one of the larger changes families go through, and like most transitions, they develop gradually, stirring up what has been a fairly stable routine, as well as questions you may not have had to think about for years.

Do you now cringe almost as much as your child to the question "What do you want to be when you grow up? Lots of empty nesters do. The good news is that this period can be one of incredible growth and personal fulfillment, a time to really focus on yourself, your needs, and your dreams.

How? As with all transitions, once you've accepted that change is coming, taking some time to come to terms with what it means to you is important. While many of us aren't used to thinking about how we"d like to design our own lives, this period of transitions is one when you can do just that. And you deserve to - you've just completed one of the most worthwhile and difficult jobs there is - raising a child who is almost an adult, ready to go off into the world.

In quiet moments, brainstorm about what you'd like to do with the extra time and energy that this transition will bring. What makes you feel happy? What are your strengths? What do you now know and what have you wanted to learn? Have you always wanted to go back to school, start your own business, develop your artistic abilities, travel, or play golf? Think big!

Once you've allowed yourself to play with all of the different possibilities, look into how you can make it a reality. Talk with your friends, your partner, or experts. The internet is another great resource to find some great information on the possible steps you need to make your dreams a reality.

Taking the time to begin thinking about designing your own life now may not keep away the tears or the feelings of emptiness as you drive away from the college on that first day, but will provide you with something to focus on, to feel excited about.

And if it all feels overwhelming, if thinking about doing things for yourself is foreign to you, or if you'd like support during this part of your journey, consider working with a coach to help you identify your strengths and dreams, and help you develop a plan that will let this time of transition become one where you flourish.

About The Author

The mother of a college junior and her own senior heading off to college, Ellen Neiley Ritter, the Ph.D. is aware of the questions and potentials associated with the empty nest transition. Completing her Ph.D. in family psychology and getting internationally certified as a coach in "midlife", she founded Family Transitions Coaching, a positive, strength-based coaching program, working with women and families during times of transition to help them develop balance, resilience, and fulfillment. To learn more about coaching and transitions, visit Family Transitions Coaching at www.familytransitionscoaching.com.

enritter@familytransitionscoaching.com

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