Telltale Signs Your Spouse Is Cheating
If you suspect that someone near and dear to you is cheating, there are signs you can look for. A subtle deviation can trigger warning bells. Consider purchasing a GPS Vehicle Tracking Device, so you'll know exactly where your spouse has been, down to the last mile.
If you really want to know the truth, than you have reason enough to read on. Some signs that can give away a cheater include:
A sudden increase in time away from home, such as attending new functions, particularly alone.
A decreased sexual interest in you.
Increased Viagra use.
Leaves a room to take a phone call or whispers when many people tend to talk louder on phones, especially cell phones.
Tends to use the computer alone and is more secretive and defensive about it. Such as deleting their Web Browser's history of sites visited or emptying the Recycle/Trash Bin.
Uses the computer when you are asleep.
Exhibits a compulsive need to check e-mail, be online or Instant Message someone.
Tilts the computer monitor away from view when you enter the room.
Seems to be unusually interested in your schedule.
Starts doing their own laundry or checks their clothes carefully.
Cell phone bill goes up or trying to hide it.
They have unexplained credit card charges or bank receipts.
Starts buying you guilt gifts such as flowers.
The cheater knows many of the techniques used by Private Investigators who specialize in this kind of work. They know to look for surveillance when traveling to meet their lover. They know the computer might be monitored. They know that phone numbers can be traced.
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It's important that you do not give them any reason to be more cautious or alert. Smart cheaters will often take a few of these precautions:
Never gets involved with someone you or your friends know.
Always checks to see if they are being followed.
Tries not to deviate from their usual schedule.
Will make the affair fit into a normal day to avoid suspicion.
Never stores phone numbers in their phone, writes them down, or gives the person they're speaking to a fake name, etc.
Asks friends to cover for them.
Never makes any calls from the home phone - your spouse or lover could have a recorder connected - or cancels Caller-ID and *69 features.
Gets a pre-paid calling card to use from home or work or with payphones.
Clear the cell phone call history frequently.
Never uses a credit card to pay for restaurants or hotels, EZ-Pass and ATMs, or anything that leaves a trail.
Always showers or cover up with cologne, etc. before returning home after a romantic tryst. When they meet, tells their lover not to wear cologne or perfume, or wear the same brand as yours. Keeps the affair away from places where friends and co-workers could see them. They will arrive separately at clubs or restaurants. They try to make sure the lover they are cheating with has as much to lose as they do if their affair is discovered. They may carry "proof" of where they were last night such as matches or leave a receipt around to be discovered. This is especially true if you are suspicious.
Ask yourself why they are cheating. There are many possibilities, such as a mid-life crisis, the arrival of a new baby, or simply boredom, and you should probably review them. This knowledge will become important if you decide to confront your cheating spouse. Then again, you may decide to keep this a secret and use it as grounds for divorce.
About the Author: Francis Kielb is a freelance security consultant contracted by competitive intelligence firms, such as BHE Security, and private investigators.