Reena Sommer, Ph.D.
Did you know that the majority of people who have experienced infidelity in their relationship will likely experience it again 'even if they move on to other relationships!!
Pretty unbelieveable 'but it's the truth. One would think that getting badly burned once would be enough. But
that's not quite the way it happens for many....
There are reasons for why infidelity, adultery and extra marital affairs often become a repeated pattern
for some people in relationships and not in others.
Basically, it comes down to the following three factors...
ONE 'People's choices in a partner or spouse are not in line with what they need or want, and what their spouse or partner can give them. In other words,
there is a mismatch along the important dimension of emotional intimacy.
TWO 'People don't make their relationships a priority by putting the time and energy into them that they need. That leaves them open for infidelity and cheating to take root.
THREE 'People don't understand the issues that led to the infidelity, adultery and extra marital affair in the first place. They also don't see the
part they played in the relationship's failure. For many people, it is easier to blame someone else for things that went wrong rather than looking inward for understanding.
Does any of this ring a bell? If it does, then it's time to pay attention.
You don't need another round of the heartache and grief that goes with infidelity and extra marital affairs.
"The Anatomy of An Affair"
This e-Book by Dr. Reena Sommer sheds new light the REAL REASONS why affairs develop. Did you know that for most
people who cheat, it's not about sex? Hard to believe? This e-Book reveals some interesting insights into
intimacy in relationships. Once you understand these important dynamics, you will be able to basically
"affair-proof" your relationship.
Reena Sommer is an relationship and divorce consultant, author and seminar leader. She has written extensively of issues related to high conflict relationships and divorce.