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Dating Personals! Find Out How To Write A Knockout Personal Ad

If you're about to leap into dating personals and don't know how to begin to write that knockout dating personal ad, then read further on for some simple steps that will help develop a strategy to create a dating profile that works. Keep in mind this information is based on my personal opinions, and are not taken from any professional dating avenues, so I suggest you read at your own risk!

At this point you did your homework and found some really good dating sites that you feel will meet most, if not all, your dating needs. Now you're sitting at your computer desk with your word program open staring off into space, trying to figure out a way to express whom you are as a person.

Are you the type of individual that can easily write a job resume, but when it comes to providing delicate information about yourself, you end up playing the game, find the polar bear in a white snowstorm on your blank piece of paper or computer screen? Well don't worry, because you're in the same boat with millions of other people out there with the same problem!

It's not easy to whip up a profile about yourself, because you are your biggest critic. If you had some bad experiences with dating in the past, or you may have had very little practice in the so-called date community, this could be a reason you will have a hard time trying to get the right message out to the other online singles, which will be seeking you out for any future potential relationship.

Dating Profiles Should Be Written With A Resume Approach!

Whether you're writing for a work resume or a free personals dating ad, one thing that's commonly required is a clear detailed approach. Now depending how serious you are about meeting someone online is up to you, and that will be reflected in the end result of your personals profile.

Step # 1: Talk to your closest friends and family, and ask them to comment on your personality, and tell why you want this information so they don't lie to you. Their perception of you is extremely valuable information, because they know you the best! It may be a true eye opener on what other people may think about you, and how they actually perceive you as a person. You may think that you're the coolest cat on the planet, later to find out that you have personal flaws that put you in the ranks of a sloppy dog.

You need this feedback, because if you were dating in the past and have not picked up on any of your weaknesses by now, then all you're going to do is get more frustrated with yourself as the limited responses come in from your ad.

Step # 2: Now that you received your incredibly honest feedback from your best friends and family and wondered why they enjoyed the process immensely, you now realize that you actually don't look like Brad Pitt, or Pamela Anderson, and that sticking a bratwurst up your nose on a first date is not allowed, you are now ready to take this wonderfully critical information and start writing your profile message.

The Singles Version Of: Who, What, Where, When, Why!

Step # 3: If you're having difficulty putting all your personal information in your singles profile, follow the standard format that many Marketing companies use for their advertising campaigns. Remember that writing dating ads is very similar to marketing ads. You want to get your message across to someone that is interested in your qualities and personal attributes, which is very similar to an advertisement targeting certain demographics to sell their product. Does that make sense? Ok, let's continue then!

a. "Who" are you as a person? Don't BS here, make sure you tell it like it is, even if your mother branded you as the crazy black sheep out of all the siblings! Deep down this is where you will start to find your true compatibility with others online, because if you like to eat French Toast and bacon for dinner, and hotdogs for breakfast, you may be surprised that there are hundreds of others that enjoy to do the same. You see where I'm going with this? It's not how you look, how smart you are, or how many reps you can do at the gym. It's common interest, and sometimes people who find things that are in common with others means more to them than anything else.

b. "What" are you looking for in an online match? Again, tell it like it is! Do you want to meet someone for long walks on the beach, and romantic dinners by candlelight, or would you rather find someone that enjoys eating spicy nachos and watching re-runs of Gilligan's Island. Believe it or not, there are people that enjoy this! The bottom line is express in your ad what you are looking for in a person that is most compatible to your lifestyle. So if you're not into horseback riding naked, then don't put that in your profile, just so you can try and impress the other person. It doesn't work that way in the matchmaking process.

c. "Where" would you like to find and meet someone for a potential date? If you want to only have select meetings with singles in your community, or surrounding area, make sure to mention this, and be clear and to the point.

More than likely if you neglect to put this fact in your dating place of choice, you may get responses from all over the world, and unless you happen to be traveling outside of America to countries like Australia, China, or Brazil, then it's crucial that you're specific on how far you're willing to travel to meet someone. Give them a miles radius, and this will definitely narrow down your selection.

d. "When" are you available once a match is confirmed? I'm not sure if you will agree with me or not on this subject. I find that if you're going to the length of finding compatible singles on relationship sites that specialize in matchmaking, chances are they're going to eventually find you a match, so make sure you're prepared to go on your date, and that you have the available quality time to do so.

In this part of your personal profile, express that you have put special time aside in your hectic schedule to spend some valuable dating time with that select individual. Nothing is worse than finally making that ultimate match, to find out that you're schedule is booked solid. Don't worry, your mother doesn't need your help finding that missing sock in the dryer anymore, so take that off your list and free up one day.

e. "Why" are you using a service online over conventional dating avenues? This is a very touchy subject to put in your profile match description, and could be left out if you feel it is not necessary, or anybody's business. However, even though most single individuals know why they're on the dating site and don't feel they need to express their reasons, they seem to be extremely curious of why the other person is on the matchmaking site. In this case, it's to your advantage to be honest and communicate why you're using the services.

Of course, you're going to read things like: I'm tired of head games, or I don't have the time, because I deliver papers in the morning, run a fast food restaurant during the day, and race gerbils at night! Hello, again tell the truth! Write in your profile relationship box that you have already dated in the community, and you want to meet more compatible people in your area. Tell them you haven't found the right one yet, and explain to them that friendship is all that youhave found so far, and you're looking for more in a relationship, and that is why you're searching on the Internet!

The last bit of online dating advice I would like to provide to you is that you really have to express you true self without sounding desperate. Many of the singles online will easily pick this up if you submit comments like, I date anybody that has a heartbeat, or I'm not picky!

Everybody is looking for the right one that has the most compatible features, so before you start writing that knockout personal profile, and you're serious about finding someone for a long-term romance or possible marriage, remember it's not always about looks, money, or how intelligent you are, it may be as simple as telling someone that you really enjoy spending quality time with your partner on the comfy couch, with a bowl of popcorn watching a marathon of sappy movies together.


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