We increase our suffering by failing to appreciate the opportunities and learning our current challenges offers us. There is no life without challenges.
When we attempt to escape from what we find unpleasant, we miss out on the possibility of learning life affirming lessons, and achieving what we most desire. Attempting to move away from what we don't want leads us to settle for the scraps of life instead of feasting on the meal.
Indeed the more you try to avoid suffering, the more suffering you'll wind up experiencing. The same is true of illness.
You'll improve the quality of your life by striving to better understand what's confusing you, rather than looking to escape from your turmoil.
Solution and problem are two sides of the same coin. With a solution in hand, there is no problem. Look for the solutions inherent in your current situation, rather than looking to fix what you perceive to be wrong.
Instead of fighting against the seeming competing desires you have, use your whole self to stay cooperatively engaged in your struggle and you'll find something within you shifts Over time your struggle will be transformed into a life affirming lesson.
Wanting to experience peace of mind is a fine goal to have, if you also realize you'll sometimes have little choice but to feel distressed. In fact, much of life happens in between the two.
Nothing stays the same forever and thus change is inevitable. Today's suffering will turn into tomorrow's happiness, and eventually you'll surely suffer once again. That's just the way life is.
Accepting that change is inevitable helps you move with life rather than attempting to hold onto either the bad or the good. As you open up to the need for change, you'll find yourself suffering more effectively. Peace of mind is sure to follow!
In Aikido we understand that if we follow the direction of an attack without impeding the attacker, the confusion being expressed will be fully expended and a new, more life affirming relationship can then begin to emerge.
You need some silence and solitude in your life so that you can begin to hear the inner voice of your original self. This is not the voice of your internal dialogue. This is the voice that's hidden in the depths of your soul, and it speaks to you without words.
It's your internal chaos that destroys your capacity for inner peace, and not the world around you. Its your internal chaos that weakens the root energy of your life force and the wisdom of your original self. You need to strive to know yourself as you were in the beginning of your life. Know youself as you were as a very young child-- Filled with amazement and curiosity.
A happy life is not built upon understanding why. A happy life requires that you live in the midst of uncertainty and do so gracefully. When you're graceful there's a beauty that exudes from the way you move and carry yourself, because you do only what's necessary. Nothinig more and nothing less. When you're graceful there's a sense of proper proportion, an ideal relationship, between yourself and the rest of life. Between your happiness and your sadness. You sense your life is just right as it is, and thus there's a stillness that permeates your being.in the midst of the unknown.
When you experience grace in the midst of illness, defeat, or other suffering, you're able to appreciate the small pleasures of life, and each challenge you face serves to strengthen the dreams you hold in your heart.